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Talk To Steph: My Dad Won’t Let Me Marry A Christian

A StephanieDaily reader, Zainab, sent in this touching email.

I’m a 27 year old girl. I work in an Advertising Agency which doesn’t pay much but with time it will grow. My issue is that ever since my Dad has made it mandatory for all of us to marry Muslim guys, I haven’t met any Muslim guy that I can take home. I just don’t understand why parents are this stubborn. Most of my friends are married with children and I’m still here trying to find a good relationship. Even my ugly friends are married with children. I have prayed and prayed and I am loosing faith. I went as far as asking friends to please introduce me to their husband’s Muslim friends but nothing came out of it. I now ask myself if there is something wrong some where. Please how do I go about this. My Dad would rather die than let me marry a Christian. Please I really need your advice. I’m getting tired. Thanks.

Dear Zainab, first of all, let me give you a big e-hug. I’m very sure you are a pretty and smart young lady and I’d like to remind you to have some confidence in yourself. Don’t think something is wrong with you if your friends get married before you. You are perfectly OK and in due time, you will find true love and marry the love of your life. We all don’t have the same timing in life. Perhaps God is preparing you, and him too, for the time you will eventually meet.

You didn’t mention in your mail that you were in love with, or dating a Christian. It just seems to me from the tone of your message that there are more Christian guys around you or asking to date you than Muslims. I know this can be really frustrating considering your father’s warning. But most importantly, you have to ask yourself what YOU want because eventually, it would be you getting married and not your father. Of course, your father’s wish is very important, but let God and your heart lead you to the best man for you.

I wish you the very best!


SL Fabz, join in and give Zainab some good advice in the comments section.

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  • Reply
    Stephanie Nwankwo
    April 4, 2015 at 7:47 pm

    Always know that you are the best..

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    Eva Agaba
    April 4, 2015 at 7:52 pm

    Mi dia zainab there is time for everything, just wait for God’s time.

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    April 4, 2015 at 8:07 pm

    I have a quetion to ask pls why is it that most girls are not satisfy?

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    Abubakar Aliyu
    April 4, 2015 at 10:10 pm

    Assalamu alaiki my dear sister in islam obey your parent commend, and you know that islamically its not allow for a muslim woman to warry a christian man whenever you do that there most be funish by your creator. So my advise to is that you should be patient ALLAH will help you!

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      April 5, 2015 at 6:36 am

      How do you mean by Muslim not allowed to marry Christian? This are things that triggers problem in our society today and lots of ladies all in the name ofrreligion they are all in their father’s house till date.. We are all humans and equal in the site of God let’s allows our ladies that are Muslims /Christian marry any religion they wish to as long as that happiness and understanding is there. So abubakar I mean no harm but we are all one body on planet earth thanks

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    April 4, 2015 at 11:24 pm

    Dear ZAINAB, my advice isn’t more than what any responsible man or woman can tell you about your case. marriage is not something that you can get it at anytime, anywhere or somehow. life need concentration and determination when you get youself into this such condition, nothing that you can do accept what GOD have already put in place for you. just always keep on praying GOD will make a way where there is no way

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      April 5, 2015 at 6:31 am

      Sulaiman may God bless you and you have spoken very well. I also want to reply a text before yours the guy is a Muslim but the way he sounds is as if Christian are evil ain’t we serving same God?

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    Amponsah justice
    April 5, 2015 at 12:53 am

    My dear, anything worth waiting for, is worth having when they finally come. Don’t just get into it because your friends are going into it because, you are going into it with your heart and not your head and it’s something built and not a play. Trust me your, you’ll be the happiest when it’s your time too kk. All the best dear.

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    April 5, 2015 at 6:39 am

    Hi Steph.l luv ds story.the same thing is happening to me.i would love to marry a muslim it possible to get her email contact or something .perhaps we can work out something

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    April 5, 2015 at 6:44 am

    From me to you. Zainab listen to this little piece. When God created man he knew that man can not take care of all that he created and he made him a helper which was a woman. My message here is this every man or woman on earth today he or she has someone attached to him or her, the only thing is for you to wait and get yourself prepared for that which God or Allah has for you. Remember God is a perfect timer and he makes all beautiful in his time. Your dream man will come and keep praying if it’s the will of God for you to marry a Christian just keep praying God will soften the heart of your dad God bless you Zainab and God bless you ma Stephanie

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    April 5, 2015 at 8:33 am

    Hi Zainab, I had the same problem until I clocked 30th….I thought God didn’t answer my prayer, believe u me,He gave me the best lady that i have been trailing throughout my university years.
    …99% better than those ones I thought would make a good home. Just be patient with your God because He has the best plan for each and everyone of us.Mind u, your dad wants the best for you here and hereafter.

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    gaddafi ibrahim
    April 5, 2015 at 11:39 am

    Kindly hook us up if its ok by her.I am a muslim and single.Something might or might not come out it.Cheers

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    Toyin Akeem Kayode
    April 5, 2015 at 2:52 pm

    Am a muslim 4rm kwara state, ilorin town, pls sis steph kindly link me wit zainab, she wil nt regret me. Am seriously searching 4a responsible muslim lady 2spend my rest of life with. This is my contact. 09035051122. Thank u very much big sister

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    April 5, 2015 at 5:52 pm

    I totally understand ur pain sis Zainab bcos d same tin is hapnin to me. thou its easy 2 say but hard 2 do, just continue praying n trusting in God 2 change ur story n dat of many ladies out dere going tru d same situation. tanks steph 4 a gud job. God bless u.

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    April 5, 2015 at 9:19 pm

    hi this is zainab.i really appreciate your advice and comments. you can reach me on 08059413519.

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    April 6, 2015 at 6:49 am

    wat i see is dat religion is d gap dere, but let me tell somtin, no dat u can marry who u wan to marry not becos of marriage sake but becos u believe in dat person, dat u can work tins perfectly.Then creat a room were u can talk 2 ur dad makin him 2 understand ur own choice n region

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