Friend of shocked wife writes:
“Six years ago, a man (46 yrs old) married a 24 year old girl. Wife stayed back in Naija with the mother-in-law while the processing of her papers to join her husband began. After a while, no sign of processing again. After much pressure from the wife, the husband declared (after 2 kids) that he married her to be taking care of his mum who has partial stroke for 13 yrs now,and not to actually join him”. What do you advise the wife and her children to do now?
29 Comments
LovePeddler
April 23, 2013 at 3:41 amThe write up was written badly, read for yourself. Marriages of nowadays is based on peer pressure. Women should not see marriage as the ultimate rather they should see it as an institution. Before getting married to a man, you should know him and his family, this way, you’d be able to tell what he’s up to and what he intends to do. My advise is for her to seek the face of God and ask for the Holyspirit’s guidance.
atuano
April 23, 2013 at 3:44 amshe should leave the marriage
ufuoma
April 23, 2013 at 3:56 amIt so touching to know men can be wicked. Pls I would love to tell my story too, how do I go about it? I need serious advice on what to do
stephaniedaily
April 23, 2013 at 4:41 amUfuoma, please email info@stephaniedaily.com
Bih
April 23, 2013 at 4:36 amLet her Pray, and God will reward the man for his action. There is nothing our Almighty cannot do.
odusole oluwabunmi
April 23, 2013 at 4:43 amShe even try 13year awaithing is bether to live dem alone and focuse of her children.dat man is not her husband but father of her children.
precious chidinma mbachu
April 23, 2013 at 5:08 amDis is wickedness @ its pick even d so caled moda in-law shld seriously ask God 4 4giveness cos she is part of d plan n I strongly advise d said victim to seek God’s face cos dis is a very difficult situation.
rose
April 23, 2013 at 5:16 amShe should stay in the marriage and manage. At least the man is coming to impregnate her. She should hire a nurse to take care of her mother in-law and try to enjoy herself the best way she could. Someday she will be able to travel for vacation. What’s done is done.
seraphina
April 23, 2013 at 5:18 amI blive God can do all things. Let her pray n take care of the woman she is her mother as well.
prestige sandy
April 23, 2013 at 5:24 amMarriage as it where,is not an institution where you go into and walk right out of it just because you were decieved.Well,since women of this days have come to see marriage as an achievement……they should also please look before the leap. My advise is that she sits right there in that village and seek God’s face and mercy so that her husband will have a change of heart.that’s all that there is.because if she leaves the marriage she will have to remain unmarried until she dies or the man dies.Its a pity though but scriptures can not be broken.thanks.
ojoko juliet
April 23, 2013 at 5:30 amThis is d height of wickedness bt 4 d sake of her innocent kids I advice she hold on and pray. I’m sure God wil surely make a way 4 her.
Efe
April 23, 2013 at 5:58 am†ђe write up was τ̅☺ pass a message n it did dat swiftly n so on point! Thanx, Ȋ̝̊̅ wish all bloggers cld be less dramatic n straight τ̅☺ d̶̲̥̅̊ point like this.
Anywz ♍Ɣ advice τ̅☺ wife, forgive ur husband n take mama τ̅☺ †ђe synagogue chr a.k.a †ђe arena of liberty, let Jesus Christ tru prophet t b Joshua and †ђe wise men pray for mama, once mama is healed, Ɣ☺ΰ give ur testimony, including d̶̲̥̅̊ plan of ur husband and how God has shamed d̶̲̥̅̊ devil, then U̶̲̥̅̊ and mama will join hand τ̅☺ process ur papers n even mama’s paper so U̶̲̥̅̊ can join ur husband where ever.
Pls do not leave ur home, forgive ur husband we r all humans n we air, ur act of forgiveness will restore ur marriage complete, pls chose τ̅☺ walk I̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ victory n not defeat, Nothing is impossible for God… Shalom!
vivian
April 23, 2013 at 5:59 amFrankly speaking, I believe no woman is a slave to any man. Therefore, u must not subject yourself and your emotions to harsh treatments. All she needs is self confidence and determination, with this she can get out of the marriage and move on with her her kids.
uju bright
April 23, 2013 at 6:01 amLet her take her children nd go bk to her parents nd start another decent life, but l know dat no act will go unpunished, as at and wen due, the man will come begging for his actions, only then will she speak ur innermost mind, but ur continious stay there will only embitter ur life the more. Gud luck!
Stephanie Uche
April 23, 2013 at 6:12 amWat a shocked indeed, well my advice to her is, she should go back to her family tell dem d situation@ hand, den listen to wat d family will decide on & move on wit her life. As 4 d husband he’s a vampire & God will pay him back in his own way.
Funke
April 23, 2013 at 6:13 amIt so sad that women in Nigeria face this kind of trauma. It is quite unfortunate too, that some men are wicked and heartless. For this particular lady, she should move one with life.it might be difficult that’s the best she can do for herself and kids
Funke
April 23, 2013 at 6:16 amShe should move on with her life.
Phyllis Osemeka
April 23, 2013 at 6:17 amShe should pray about it and then leave d house,nobody wants to be a main in her husband’s house.
Kate Solomon
April 23, 2013 at 6:23 amD best tin for her is to pack her tins n leave immediately wit her children. She cn start life again even @ 37. Cos he just took her for granted he didn’t value her. Dat is a deceitful act and it’s so disappointing.
Vivian M
April 23, 2013 at 6:50 amThere is nothing she can do, except to stay and take care of her children. She is married for life, and also pray that God turns the heart of her husband towards her, so that she can find favour in his sight.
Aramide
April 23, 2013 at 7:15 amIf she can still cope with the psychological trauma,she should stay.Their Į̸̸̨§ this stupid mentality of we Nigerian women which forces women to continue to suffer till death claim their souls: “Ђό̲̣̣̣ will I leave my husband with 2 children” Find a job Α̲̅πϑ take care of yourself Α̲̅πϑ the children, ask God to strenghten Ɣ☺ΰ to move on with your life.Ɣ☺ΰ are made a nanny ignorantly.Your children will be errand boys or girls.Have Ɣ☺ΰ for once pondered on what would happen to Ɣ☺ΰ Α̲̅πϑ your children when the so-called mother-in-law die?What Ɣ☺ΰ dread doing Ŋw would happen.Ɣ☺ΰ will be dumped for G̲̣̣̣̥ό̲̣̣̣̥ό̲̣̣̣̥d.Better be wise Ŋw! Get closer to God, He will never leave Ɣ☺ΰ or forsake Ɣ☺ΰ @ your trying period.He alone Į̸̸̨§ the help of the helpless.Leave the man for God’s judgement. Every G̲̣̣̣̥ό̲̣̣̣̥ό̲̣̣̣̥d Α̲̅πϑ evil has a reward. Thanks.
jy
April 23, 2013 at 8:47 amIt is a very pathetic story. Now dat d deed is done,I’ll advice d woman(wife) to first leave d house where she lives her mother-in-law or get her a nanny or maid cos having to care for a person wit partial stroke is handful and 2top it wit carin 4her kids dis wil a flood-of- stress n dis might lead2 a serious health issue if dis happens den she won’t b able2 take of her mother-in-law or kids.
Secondly she shld seek 4 counsel- talk to a lawyer,pyschology and a spiritual leader. Note: family is important but her counsel team shld be bais-free also take time to pray. Wish u God grace n intervention.
Eno-Abasi
April 23, 2013 at 9:22 amShe must keep praying to God hoping dat de husband will one day return to her
Sola
April 23, 2013 at 10:47 amShe should just endure and pray 2 God 2 make way for her as there is nothing God cannot do. perhaps things can turn around in her favour.
promise
April 23, 2013 at 11:02 ami would like to stay conected on your blog my sister.
toyin olaniyi
April 23, 2013 at 1:57 pmThere is the need to know a basic fact about happiness in mariage.First of all have the loveof Christ in you so that when the physical happiness ceases themost high will continue to resoursitate one‘s soul. Nothing can be so frustrating than waking up to realise that the man you have decided to spend your live with wish you dead.Thank your God your case is not as bad as that.
Kenechi
April 23, 2013 at 3:00 pmSince she is already married to the man and they have kids together, let her stay put in her marriage. Change is a constant thing. Who can predict what will happen tomorrow? His mother may die tomorrow and she may join him. He may have a change of heart also even before his mother dies. You can never be too sure. I understand one of the reasons why she married him is to travel and live with him abroad considering the age difference. I suggest she stays calm and focused at the moment, get a job if possible, take care of her sick mother in law, her kids and herself. If eventually her husband still insist she stays in Nigeria, let her stay, the most important thing is that she is living a good life with her kids. Let abroad not deceive her. Abroad is not what people think it is. She will grow tired of here as I have, considering the economic situation of things here. That is my opinion anyway.
owen
April 23, 2013 at 5:18 pmOmg! This is modern day slavery. He sure does ve another woman over there, y his housemaid wife tarries for God knows how long. Women cannot cont. to be treated like dis, all in d name of marriage. Now im really scared. %
KIBIRA ALOYSIUS
April 24, 2013 at 8:40 amlet that lady just pray to God, one day one time will help and remove away her tears