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Talk To Steph : Scorned

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Kate looks at her husband, the father of her three children, the man she loves with all her heart, the man she gave up her thriving modeling career for, the man she had supported and played house with for the past ten years. Kate looks at him again and again with burning hatred. She fights back the tears that threaten to burst her eyes open. “What do you mean you want a divorce?” she says with a husky voice, Femi replies with no emotions; “I am sorry but it isn’t working”. Kate laughs through her tears; “it’s not working huh, Femi? After ten years? I gave you ten years of my life, three beautiful children and a comfortable home, I dedicated my life to making things easier for you and all of a sudden, it’s not working? You don’t…. Femi cuts off his wife’s sentence and speaks to her rudely; “see, I don’t have time for all this crybaby attitude, it’s better you stop this and listen to what I have to say carefully”. Femi pauses as Kate stares at him with tears streaming down her once slim face which is a little bit plum now. “You can’t even fake a little remorse, you act like you can’t even wait to get rid of me, me, Femi” Kate says in the calmest voice she could muster as opposed to the burning rage and hurt she feels inside, Femi hisses; “Are you going to listen?” , “You are leaving me for her aren’t you? You are leaving your children for her”, Kate continues. “I am not leaving my children, I am leaving you and you can’t keep them away from me besides I don’t know what you are talking about”, Femi replies in a rush of words. Kate stands up from the bed and paces; ” You must think I am a fool, I knew about it from the beginning, I just thought you will soon get over her like the rest of them, I guess I was wrong. She keeps pacing around the room as she utters inaudible words like she is having a dialogue with herself. Femi stands up from the bed and moves towards the door; ” Even though you are not interested in what I have to say, I am going to say it anyway” he clears his throat; “I will give you two million for the divorce settlement, you can keep the house and the cars and I will give you a hundred and fifty thousand naira for the children’s monthly upkeep besides the children’s……”. Kate touches her husband’s lips in a bid to keep him from speaking; “Save your breath darling, I want thirty percent of the company’s shares”. She starts wiping her tears with the back of her hand, a shocked Femi responded; “What?” Kate replies with a clear and sharp voice, with more vigor this time; “I want thirty percent of the company’s shares, that should get me a seat on the board right?” Femi stares at his wife as if trying to decipher if she’s joking and burst into a ripples of laughter “You got me”, he stops laughing when he sees Kate’s serious look; “I am not joking, Femi”. Femi’s face straightened and then turns into a hard frown. “That’s not going to happen” Femi says. Kate smiles at her husband with contempt; “Really?”, she says feeling on top of her game. “Why don’t you just take what I am offering and leave me in peace?” Femi screams like someone in pain. “Why should I do that, when I can see you squirm?”, she replies with a smile of contentment on her face. Femi paces around the room and looks back at the woman who is about to be his ex-wife, I don’t know this woman, he thought, the woman he married is at least 50 pounds slimmer, bubbly and he couldn’t get enough of her, ten years later , she is a shadow of herself, gosh! Look at the rolls of fat on her stomach, she looks like my mother. He snaps out of his trance as Kate walks to the bathroom to wash her face. “Kate” he calls out loud, he notices how calm she has suddenly become; “You look pretty co-ordinated for a woman whose husband is about to divorce her” Kate picks up a towel and dries her face; “I am sure it would give you so much pleasure to see me beg. No, grovel for mercy but sorry to disappoint you, I won’t give you that satisfaction” she says as she walks out of the bathroom and seats in front of the mirror to clean her face. A frustrated Femi yells at her. “You gold- digging b*”. Kate suddenly throws the cleanser’s bottle at his head and yells back at him with pure rage as she rushes towards him; “How dare you? Babafemi Ernest Martins, you had nothing when I met you, I had a career and I gave up my whole savings to start that company you now sit at its head table, how dare you call me, Kate, a gold- digger? It is that whore you are sleeping with that deserves that title, not me”. Kate goes back to her chair. Femi is stunned by her sudden change of temper but quickly puts his emotions in check. “Well, you can’t have thirty percent of my company and nobody is going to believe that nonsense you just spit”, she looks at her husband reflection in the mirror; “I have proof, Femi and I am sure you are not stupid enough to believe that nonsense you just spit” she replies calmly, almost like a different woman . Femi stares at his wife with confusion written all over his face. “Femi, do you mind? Get the * out of my house, I will have your things sent to your office”, Femi tries to speak but Kate waves him off. “Speak to my lawyers” she says as she focuses on herself.

What have we learnt from this piece? Was Kate right to overlook her husband’s escapades? And to the men, do you understand why Femi fell out of love with his wife? Please share your thoughts…

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    August 16, 2013 at 3:25 am

    kate was right wit ha actions, most men think we r all the same, so he expected ha 2 start cryin ha ass out….sorry…..she disappointed him……ladies bcoz u r married doesn’t mean u should go out of fashion, men luv wat dey see…..pls ladies b trendy n do everything possible to keep ur man he is YOURS

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    August 16, 2013 at 4:05 am

    Except for a man who want to destroy himself by his own hands- I think there must be a reason for the divorce racket! Its is either d wife is d over-bearing type, as no man want to live wit a woman who don’t give him his place as the head of d family, or d man is bewitched possibly by another woman! Yes! bc I cannot see a sane man wanting to bring down his house for no just course. Again just as d bible puts it women should learn to SUBMIT, n den d man will have to LOVE her. There can’t be two captains in a ship otherwise wreck is d destination! I submit my case-@Okubasar Nig. Limited, invest in properties in Abuja at amazing prices! Lands, Houses, open spaces for offices n shops, recreatn n gardens etc! 08035040537!

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    gloria nyore
    August 16, 2013 at 4:24 am

    Femi is completely wrong. True luv lies within not outward appearance. Everyone will definitely age somday and d normal african lady is not a slim one

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      August 16, 2013 at 8:53 pm

      yea, totally agree wt u Gloria.

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    August 16, 2013 at 4:52 am

    Well my pretty actress ur write.up is quit splendid,now here comes my share, to me i will say that both of them played childishly now on the side of femi i will say he disgust me, yes he did beause is not good to bite the finger that fed you, had it been he didn’t met that girl he would have goting that company talkless of given out 2 million for setlement…what a balderdash & preposterious, as for the lady in question she has no right to use those speech no mater what even if she is the breadwinner of the house, peharps the exchange this words before their children which is abnormal,to me the man think that his wife wount go to lenth of sharing properties like that 30 percent she demand, my word to them is this, let them resolve their defrences & let go so that people outside will not see their nakedness.

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    August 16, 2013 at 6:18 am

    Turning a blind eye to Femi’s sexual escapades was Kate’s undoing. Like a little leakage that sinks the ship, women should not be so blindfolded by love to overlook their partner’s wild adventure. Femi bears all the blames bc he professed holy love at the altar of God and couldnt resist his lust for Miss Beauty.

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    August 16, 2013 at 6:57 am

    She did d best by letting him go,coz am sure he wil come back to his senses soon,coz I wonder how many women he wil run to once childbirth changes their body…as 4 women,d fact dt God answered ur prays n gives u a husband does not mean dat u shld jst sit back n grow outta shape,no!!!infact,dat shld be d starting point 4 u,to take care of urslf n remain in shape,dis shld be a lesson to other women n men…better appreciate wot u have coz u can’t tell wot ur next myt

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    August 16, 2013 at 6:58 am

    D lady is a smart lady for demanding a 30% part of the company,since the man has decided to put her through pains,she must not continue to lament witout taking a brave step,d deed has been done.These days,being smart is d only way to pull through d cowardise of men!!!

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    UCHE M
    August 16, 2013 at 7:40 am

    Nyc piece , but both of them are @fault here , I feel most women. Devalue themselves, your husband is cheating and u feel its ok? Y Will u allow ur sef bcom a house furniture? Wen a man finds out his wife is cheating he immediately sends her packing. Now most women say all men cheat n its ok as long as he comes home to u , I’m sorry but u ve no self esteem and probably deserve the cheating sorry to say !
    Now as 4 men , most men act like children n are ignorant of d fact dat a woman whom u dated as a slim person will definitely after child bearing never get back to d exact form , a woman carries 4kg of a human in her, she gives birth has to eat n drink a lot to enhance breastmilk n gets fat during dat period, and probably takes in before her body heals. Now my point is dis , most men dnt even support der wives to help them in d process of losing weight, I 4 one my husband put a gym in d house n we wrk out together, I ve 3 kids and I look I as good as ever , thnks to my supportive husband. so men shld get over dem selves n try to make der wives wat d want dem to be .
    Also , I love her confidence in d lattert, dat was a brave one n I hope she sticks to it and doesn’t settle for. Less.
    pls my dear pple especially ladies pls Neva devalue urselfs it is Neva ok for a man to cheat on u , u ar more than that , keep being prayerful cos der are so many agents and most times the signs of an unfaithful man is always obvious b4 marriage so dnt think u will change him wen u are married cos that’s wen d tru him will come out . Cheers

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    August 16, 2013 at 8:03 am

    well, he probably fell out of love with her because she had changed in her looks,and was no longer the slim,flat tummy woman she used to be.but in my opinion,that shoudnt be enough reason for a divorce,because 1.)aside physical attributes,inner attributes matters alot. infact it matters the most. afterall,the beauty of a person might attract you,but his/her character could capture your heart ,or even put you off as the case may be. 2.)naturally,with time,beauty fades,so if a man feels his wife is no longer attractive to him,he ought to let her know, so she could work on it.Even if he gets married to someone else, she might still have lapses in her outlook as time goes on.3.) Even men sometimes grow fat out of proportion at times,with big not only women loose it at some point.A man who truly loves his wife will stand by her,encourage her, and calmly tell her to work on herself if need be,but still tell her she is beautiful.And vice versa. In a nutshell,looks shouldnt be a barrier to a successful and happy marriage,in as much as it should be paid attention to.

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    August 16, 2013 at 10:04 am

    Sometimes in life we women will, for peace to reign overlook the excesses of our men hoping that they will one day get tired but this is the mistake African women make. Ŋ Oo°˚˚˚°! Man should be given the liberty to flirt. Put a stop to it as soon as u notice. Kemi has made the mistake already but she should not settle for anything less than 50% of the company. The 30 she is requesting for is too small. And Femi should G̶̲̥̅Õ̳͡ to blazes and get burnt. He should have advised her to work on her weight rather than jumping into the arms of other women. He should imagine his new girlfriend 10yrs from now.

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    Obiora Arinze
    August 16, 2013 at 10:23 am

    I learnt that Femi is not wise enough cos he do not have d fear of God in him … he may think he acted right but he was wrong . The wealth has filled him with foolishness and pride ….his selfish desire to satisfy himself with a younger and slimmer woman has blindfolded him .

    Kate didnt act right by ignoring them . The bible says to be both wise and smart . Kate thought she was smart but she wasnt and she lacked wisdom …She did not even pray ..She was only hoping .You dont hope the enemy changes his / her mind . Instead ..have a plan and lauch your offensive …thats wisdom .

    I dont want to justify him ..on why he fell out of love with the woman who made him reach ..bears beautiful Children and sacrifice 10 yrs of her life and many more .
    He simply fell out of love with his wife because he wasnt a good christian or he never really loved her that much .

    Though I will suggest that women continue to take care of themselves and look healthy and preety just to compete with the husband snatchers out there .

    Thanks Stephanie ..I enjoyed the story .

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    August 16, 2013 at 1:37 pm

    what I have learnt as a person Į̸̸̨§ to be strong always. Women should never give up their careers up, just to satisfy a man. Ƴöΰ can’t satisfy them, except with God’s intervention. Kate Į̸̸̨§ a very brave woman, she Į̸̸̨§ very responsible and respectful too. She has done the best thing by giving the man a freehand, while she stayed back at home to make her marriage work. she can’t do more than she has done, what would be would be. I have been a victim once, he would always do what pleases him because his heart is somewhere else. Keeping him in the marriage will only worsen matters cos he would frustrate life out of you for not releasing him. Free him pls, let him go. Kudos to Kate, move on honourably with your kids, Ƴou will Laff last baby. But don’t compromise your claim.

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    August 16, 2013 at 2:02 pm

    He fell out of Love because there was no love in the first place. People get married out of pressure from family, friends alike. She is also a gold digger who wasn’t interested in the marriage but his wealth. If she really helped her man by investing in the company then she should be content with what she has; knowing that more will come.
    My advise to singles out there: keep searching for the man/woman of your dreams. It will only take time …

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      August 21, 2013 at 4:46 pm

      are you sure we are reading the same story?

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    August 18, 2013 at 9:05 pm

    I’m going to have to agree with UCHE M one of the first thought out comment’s I’ve read, I’m sorry to say if i hurt anyone’s feelings. Both of them should never have let it go that far and should have supported each other better. I mean what example are you setting for your kids the future generation that is supposed to be a better image of who you are. A marriage is not only for when you look good, or are at your best, but also a support system for each other when they are at their lowest point. This they clearly didnt get the memo for. My advice in such situations is to focus on what is causing your marriage to have cracks, this experience will make both of you better people especially when you tackle it the right way, eventually. Marriage come with love, respect, compromise, understanding, openness, communication and trust to name a few. these are not things you build in one day, as far as the mutual feeling is there you make it work, who said life is always a bed of roses.

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    August 18, 2013 at 9:08 pm

    I forgot to add that now she is handling it how she should have from the beginning, he needs to be taught how to treat people and she needs to learn how to handle people. Great example though of typical scenario’s Stephanie.

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    August 20, 2013 at 8:51 am

    I have learnt from this story, that one shouldn’t give up on his/her life to build other’s. we could say we know someone, one day you will get shocked of what he will do to you. Kate is a brave woman! she overlooked her husband infidelity for peace to reign. He has the infantry to propose her money when she is the one who built the company: how cruel! Silence doesn’t mean fear! He has woken up the fighter in his wife and he is yet to bear the consequences!

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    R Let
    September 25, 2013 at 12:19 pm

    i am not a man but i think femi felt fade up of his wife’s physical appearance; somehow she was no longer the slim sexy lady he had married 10yrs ago and desires a change of look. well i have learnt one thing, men are like ice, u can never predict how long they will stay frozen, a slight change in temperature can render them unrecognizable

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