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I am 28 years old, married with a six year old child (we had him before we got married three years ago). I’m trying to get ahead in my career. I got an offer that would demand a lot of work and attention to career growth.

Here is my dilemma. There are two men I don’t joke with in my life – my father and my husband.

My father is the best dad in the world. This man suffered to ensure that me and my siblings got the best out of life.

My husband is the love of my life.

But these two men don’t see eye-to-eye on any issues regarding me. My father wants me to get ahead in life and do almost everything I dream of, but my husband wants me to slow down and be more domestic.

My dad was excited when I told him about the job. He said I should go for it. But my husband isn’t pleased. He wants me to take a break from all the high-flying career goals.

Now they are both not talking to each other. My father says he will be disappointed if I don’t take the job, and my husband says it will hurt his feelings if I take the job.

On my part, I like the job, but I am not as crazy about it as my dad, and I am also not a slow-paced person as my husband wants me to be.

In this case, whom do I listen to? – Victoria

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    October 20, 2017 at 11:45 pm

    dear ur dad is ur dad but you are answerable to your husband that’s why he paid bride price to get full permission over you respect his will

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    Ezem chinedu
    October 21, 2017 at 10:13 am

    Go for the job.

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    Racheal Edward
    October 22, 2017 at 1:56 am

    Your father’s place cannot be over emphasized. Yes He gave u life n made lots of sacrifices and u should b grateful… But my dear u are married now…. Both men r important but they operate on different levels in ur love and so one can’t be placed above d other…..
    Concerning your new job, discuss how u feel about it with ur husband if u really want it… If he still doesn’t buy it, then I’m afraid you will have to let it go……. You may have to compromise…. You should only follow your heart if you are ready for the consequences…. And my dear, they could be grave. R u ready to live with that for d rest of ur life?
    If I were in your shoes, i ‘d take the job…. Call me selfish but I don’t think having a great career can stop anyone from being domestic…. It’s all about priorities

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    October 24, 2017 at 12:49 am

    Yur sad

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    February 17, 2018 at 12:31 am

    One thing you should understand is that ones you are married your parents don’t have the right order you around again your husband now owned you so listen to your husband thanks

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