TALK TO STEPH: I AM PREGNANT BUT MY BOYFRIEND SAID HE IS NOT READY

Hello Steph,

I see that you allow your fans to seek advice on your platform. Thank you.

 

This is my issue:

I am 22 years old and presently doing my NYSC at Anambra state. I hooked up to this new guy and we decided to explore sex. I regret not using protection, I was very sure I was on my safe period, may be I miscalculated, but it happened and none of us was really prepared. One minute we are talking and the next minute… things happened. My menstrual cycle had delayed for two months and I was feeling funny. So I went for a test last week and I was confirmed pregnant. When I told my boyfriend, he said he is not ready to be a father now. He says he is not my boyfriend, that I was only an NYSC fling. That I should get rid of it and never come near him again.

 

This is my dilemma: I lost a cousin last year when she was trying to get rid of a pregnancy. The gist spread through out my village. It was too embarrassing for the family; even up till now they still use it to warn us in my family. I am afraid. I don’t know what to do. I have no money and even if I did, I am afraid to do it. 

 

I can’t take care of a child. I have nothing. I’ve made the mistake, please I don’t want harsh words. The deed is done. What can I do now?

 

Please advice. I am dreading telling my father. He will definitely disown me.

 

Help!

 

– Ijeoma