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Frank Talk: The First Year Of Marriage

After the congratulatory messages to newlyweds the next question usually is: “How is married life?

If the couple were to give an honest answer, many would agree that it is usually the hardest. The wedding is over, and the marriage begins. The transition from the “me” to “we” is not always easy for either the man or woman in a marriage.

One major hurdle many couples face – especially in the first year is miscommunication. Marriage entails sharing, and a huge part of this would be in form of communicating to your partner. I do not claim that I have it all together , but here are a tips I have personally found very helpful:

    1. Do not make assumptions. Always ask or seek to understand what the other person really meant.
    2. Always remember that your spouse is not trying to hurt you. He/she has the best intention for you.
    3. You cannot read your spouse’s mind.
    4. Never use past experiences, family background or anyone else to judge your spouse.
    5. Never take your spouse for granted. If he/she does something worth appreciating, do not assume they know how grateful you are; say “thank you.” And in a situation where you have to admit you are wrong, do not hesitate to do so. It does not mean you are weak! It simply shows you are mature, and able to take responsibility for your actions.

To every married woman or man reading this, I pray you find peace to weather every storm in your home.

Stay Happy!

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    April 16, 2015 at 9:57 am

    im not married but I know this is helpful. Especially with the communication since communication is very paramount

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    April 16, 2015 at 11:37 am

    very true

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    April 16, 2015 at 1:40 pm

    Brilliant tips. I particularly can relate to the mind reading part.
    Cheers, Mojisola

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    April 16, 2015 at 6:28 pm

    A very beautiful piece.

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    April 18, 2015 at 12:12 pm

    tanx steph! greath tips,not for married only also for yet to marry,more wisdom.

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    April 18, 2015 at 8:13 pm

    I love this piece. The first year of marriage is the toughest. Thanks for sharing

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    Racheal Laye Edward
    April 19, 2015 at 10:31 am

    Rightly said!

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    Dora Thomas
    May 7, 2015 at 9:28 pm

    HMMMMMMn….. The first year of marriage is good nd tough well am not married, love seems the swiftest,but it is the slowest of all growths.No man or woman really knows what perfect love is until they have been married a quarter of a century

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    Elemuwa Tochukwu Augusta.
    May 9, 2015 at 2:17 pm


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