Permit me to start this post today by thanking you all for your daily comments. This blog would be nothing without your comments and contributions which truly brighten up my day, everyday!
But most interestingly SL Fabz, its not only about me, but how you inspire other readers with your comments. Believe me, I learn a lot from your comments and I’m sure other readers do too.
The last time I put up a Talk To Steph post where a 23 year-old lady asked if it was OK to marry a 36 year-old man, many of you ladies gave some great advice and also shared your experiences with dating and marrying older men. (CLICK HERE if you missed it). Today, I’d like to share those comments:
Emma
I really don’t see anything wrong with that. My husband is 20 yrs older than me and today, I’m happy because that was the best step I’ve ever taken in my life. But remember to pray about it.
Ebere
Age is just a number!!! I had the same problem you are having now then because my hubby is almost 11yrs older than me and we are happily married for 4yrs now. In my previous relationship, the guy was just 4yrs older than me but we were always quarreling & even fought severally. So I had to quit him before I met my hubby who is loving and caring who does everything for me. From my experience, I’ve realized age is just a number if you like d person in question. So since you like every thing about him, then age should not be the hindrance because that man will handle any challenge in that marriage maturely, since you are not matured enough to handle some situations considering your age. Good luck.
Maureen
I am 30 and my husband to be is 42. We are happy and love one another. That’s the key. At first I was really bothered about his age but not until we started planning our wedding that I felt nothing was wrong with it.
Kendra
My husband is 11 years older than I am and guess what? We dated for 6 whole years so you can imagine how old I was at the time. Presently, I’m 23. We get along very well. He’ll pamper you to pieces and love you to the moon and back. Trust me. #wink
Cyndy
My husband is 14yrs older than I am. Pretty sure you got the message!
Karinate
I am 22 and dating a guy of 36 and I love him ssoooo very much. Follow your heart, there is nothing wrong with the age.
Aisha
My boyfriend is 17yrd older than me…I’m not the least bothered about it. Sweety please say yes to him and ask for some more time to know him better. Goodluck.
What do you think? Is age really just a number?
What if the reverse was the case and the lady was older than the man, would you still say age is just a number? Let’s discuss!
26 Comments
baby
March 4, 2015 at 6:23 pmmy sweetheart is 37 and i am 26: we are happy and planning to get marry
mimi
March 4, 2015 at 7:10 pmMy man is 19yrs older than me,we love each orda so much,we both av a three year old daugther dat he loves so much.just follow ur heart,my dear belt u people,and family member we say all manner of things about it.just follow ur heart
Anonymous
March 4, 2015 at 8:32 pmAm presently facing same challenge, thanks cos my mind is so made up… indeed, age is just a number… 12yrs older is no big deal.. happiness matters and that’s what am going for… happy me… thanks to SL Fabz… congrats to me once more
Mojisola Obazuaye
March 4, 2015 at 8:33 pmAge shouldn’t be a determining factor to love anyone. Our parents are usually older than us and we always love them. Even though we can’t marry them, we love them still. Love comes from within, if you love someone, you see beyond the age.
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dorathy chioma
March 4, 2015 at 10:26 pmmy dear sis, age is just a number forget abt his age nd follow ur hrt. am 28 nd my financee is 35.so u see just do it.
RANDOLPH ROGERS
March 5, 2015 at 1:06 amLets go back in biblical times. When God created Adam in his own image, and later created Eve out of Adam, We should say no one knew how old Adam was neither did Eve asked him how old he was. Now you will agree that Adam was older. When a younger lady got married to an older, there is something that caught her attention about him. No one knows but God. Perhaps it’s karma. We cannot change what has been destined to be. Older men are better ecperienced in almost every aspect that has to do with todays life. Older men are more contentive. Willing to help or advised where and when it’s needed. They are lots of fun in every aspect in life to make his lover, or wife be happy. Hope you’ve digested all the responses. KEEP THAT SMILE ALWAYS.
mama
March 5, 2015 at 9:00 amolder men are always better.women grow older faster Dan men cos of childbirth nd taking care of the kids nd much more. U will always still look younger in his eyes cos he is older. he will pet u more nd overlook ur imperfection cos he will always look at u as a little girl. older men are always better nd even more responsible.
Ethy K
March 5, 2015 at 1:05 pmWell said Mama. I think we are in the same boat. Fairly new in the home.He always sees me as his baby girl and wants to express how much he cares. Age is just a number. You are well taken care of by a more mature guy… always concerned in the midst of your imperfections. You may begin to wonder how excessively he demonstrates his love and concern. If you’ve been through challenges before you will always appreciate an older, more responsible and caring person. Always ready to listen and encourage you and wants you happy all the time. Live your life loving, give your heart to love, you’ll never regret it…i thought i wouldn’t give in to it earlier but i have never regretted a bit.
ALHAJI S KARGBO
March 5, 2015 at 9:39 amfor me my wife is 30year and i am just 18years old
joelita
March 5, 2015 at 1:02 pmu have nothg to contribute. Just keep quiet! If u must say sthg, think and say the truth.
Stephen
March 5, 2015 at 10:14 amAge has never been a factor but what age attracts is very important. Man’s ego is unavoidable, only a submissive woman enjoys her relationship. With respect to that, I have come to realise that Ladies submits easily to older men, thereby putting the man at his best behavior.
shindara
March 5, 2015 at 12:07 pm@ Randolph Rogers, the reverse case of what you said…what if the guy you are so much in Love with is a year younger than you are, and of course its a bother to you but not to him …does this still goes in accordance with your culled from the bible or its a negation of it. The guy is july 8, 1983 while the girl is june 22, 1983.
Kabahongo Sophie
March 5, 2015 at 2:13 pm“Love is found in an open heart, so free that it welcomes everyone”.. So I think it doesn’t matter the age as long as u understand each other…I really like u Stephan ur ma role model..
ISREAL
March 5, 2015 at 3:05 pmANYWAY ALL I HVE TO SY IS DAT GOD SHOULD GIVE OUS THE ONE DAT WILL BE OF GOOD BEHAVIOR TO OUS
ISREAL
March 5, 2015 at 3:09 pmI AM STILL SEACHING I HAVE’NT SEE ANYONE
Azeez Omolara
March 5, 2015 at 6:46 pmI love this page
Nazorm
March 5, 2015 at 11:10 pmi don’t see anything wrong in marrying an older person. my hubby is 15 years older than me
janey
March 5, 2015 at 11:22 pmAm 20 and his 58 is it ok planning to wed older men loves and respect young girls cause they have matured mind
Nkiru Rosemary
March 6, 2015 at 2:42 amAge, is just. a number. He could be a bit younger and matured at heart or much older, but immature. pray and search for true love that can stand the test of time..
jummai
March 6, 2015 at 8:29 amMy husband is older than me & more mature to handle things not like young guy out there who are hot temper to bear situation,so unfortunate, hope with time they change the attitude’s. So pray for intervention & see to be able to abide rules
Chinny
March 6, 2015 at 7:12 pmMy husband is 18 years older than me. We have been together for more than 7yrs. We love eachother so very much. He gave me the stability and contentment I ever wished for. Our sex life is superb. He is the best man I have ever met in life from all ramifications. When I met him, I had two younger men in my life that I would have choosen to marry one a year older than me, the other about 5 years. But my husband sweft me off my feet. Since I married him, no man exists anymore. He has the key to my heart.
solomon
July 13, 2015 at 8:09 amOooh chiny!
I have this 19yr old angel and we love ich other so very much. Sometimes i get caught up with the tots – like am i really doing the right thing cos of age difference.I am 34. Perhaps you cud hit me more on my email as a kind of ginger…i love her to the moon bck n forth. Thnkx for sharing yor experience.i
Racheal Laye Edward
March 10, 2015 at 6:41 amSure! Its a two way thing.
Age is just a number
silvia
March 12, 2015 at 5:49 pmThanks for u r advice steph keep It up.woild like to request u to talk of sex.am 30.no child. Every time I make love my stomach aches badly. Until i regret .Wat might b wrong. Help.
Sandra
March 12, 2015 at 11:19 pmAs far as I’m concerned,it doesn’t matter who is older,once the two parties understand themselves and the woman is submissive to her man,that’s all that matters,I’m 6 years older than my husband,he acts like he’s 10 years older than me and I give him all the respect he deserves and will continue to do that,we’ve been together for 8 years now,no one can stop people that are destined to be together. My Uncle is 62 and the wife is 63 years,they’ve been together for donkey years and living very happy.There are lots of men in Nigeria whose wives are older than them and they are living happy,but you never get to know until you are told.Age has got nothing to do with being submissive or loyal,understanding is all that matters
Tk
January 29, 2017 at 7:30 pmI love dating older guys, they’re more matured, caring and loving. They want d best for u and they treat u just d way a dad treats his daughter.,its fun when u meet d right man that loves u with everything within him….u become all that matters to him.