STEPHANIE’S POLL
Hi dearies, it’s time for our Q’s and A’s, I ask and you answer. The question for this week is:
Would you cancel your wedding if you find out some weeks before that your spouse has been lying about his or her age? For instance, if your wife to be is actually 5 years older than she says she is or if your husband is 5 years younger than he says he is.
Is age really a determining factor in love and marriage? I’d like to know what you think.
Please share your thoughts
xoxo
SL
24 Comments
Daisy
December 5, 2013 at 10:58 amTo me I really don’t think I’ll actually call off my wedding because of this reason but I think to an extent, age matters in a relationship, I can’t be 20 and L♥√ع a man of 70, Hell No!
Enemuo Nneka
December 5, 2013 at 10:58 amfoundations that makes a relationship solid is d 1 built on trust,understanding and right attitude,lyin abt age is rily nt healthy in a relationship bt i guess dia are ample enough stance for d lies,once d two understands and luv themselves,then age shudnt come btw them.
Cynthia
December 5, 2013 at 11:11 amAge is jst a combination of 2 numbers,I dnt see d reason it will stop my wedding I reject dat. A relationship is built on understanding,trust,luv n prayers.
Obie
December 5, 2013 at 11:15 amI don’t think the major issue for me would be the age difference, instead I’d be vexed that she lied. The lying part would be my main ish. But I cannot say I will cancel the wedding, because love transcends all that I believe.
canice
December 5, 2013 at 11:15 amTo me, trust and understanding matters in a relationship, if she lies abt her age and has a good reason for it, it really doesn’t matter so long as both loves each other I don’t think age should be a barrier.
Jewme
December 5, 2013 at 11:34 amBelieve me,age aint d ish;d lies and d insecurity dat inspired d lies will b ma bone of contention!If U̶̲̥̅̊ lie,den s/thing bigger may b hidden from ma eyes ama have 2 pause ♌ ponder b4 goin on,cos U̶̲̥̅̊ know….love speaks d truth always!
onyekachi stella ifeoma
December 5, 2013 at 11:41 amFor me, Age is never a determinant factor in marriage, I can marry anybody whether older than me or I am older than him. But the area I am never comfortable witg is, the area of lying. I believe, if we say we love each other, we are suppose to tell each other the truth.
Collins A
December 5, 2013 at 11:46 amAge is just a notifying factor of how long an individual has been from birth,little wonder we call d day 1 is born a birthday, thanks to d first person to make d calendar.
Personally, My 1st date in secondary school was jst a yr older bt being childish I ended d relationship on mutual consent.Amazing to me,d next lady to win my heart now is 4 yrs older,like d former I strongly love dis lady too.
cyndi
December 5, 2013 at 11:57 amTo me age can’t be d reason to call off our wedding,unless whereby d age difference is much
Olapeh Seth Kofi
December 5, 2013 at 12:06 pmAge is not a main issue depending on the age difference.If a woman is 25,l don’t think it is right she marries a man of 60.l also don’t like a woman to be older than the man,the reason is,women have menopause ealier than men but if the the difference is 5 or less it is not bad.
moses
December 5, 2013 at 12:07 pmAge is just a number is here in Nigeria we normally dill with age but if it is abroad hell no there is noting like age over there
Bibina
December 5, 2013 at 12:15 pmLying at first doesn’t make sense…aand I still dont understand why people lie about thier age…you should be sincere enough..en not lie about that number.I cant call off my wedding cos of this reason…its not a determining factor…but my only problem wud be if the age difference is much…cos I CAN’T deal..Imagine am 28 n marry a guy who’s 21…naaaaaaa
emem
December 5, 2013 at 12:21 pmAge is just a number it does not matter,but is good to honest anyway.
christabel
December 5, 2013 at 12:45 pmTo me, the age factor isn’t a determinant for marriage. As far as there is love, they shld get married. But where d problem lies is d lying aspect. No matter what always tell d truth cos finding out at d latter part its gonna take only d grace of God to forgive, cos lying to d person u want to spend d rest of ur life with is a problem, nd u can’t hide it forever.
Hope Bako
December 5, 2013 at 1:06 pmIts not all about age but maturity,how will you know if someone is matured its by having integrity and being truthful…. you can’t expect your spouse to be happy with when they find out u have been lying about your age all along, if the person finds out he or she might decide to call of the marriage thing that you av beenlying even about eeverything all along…. age isnt a determinant who every that person is is quuiting because of the lies and not the age. That’s how I see it though.
ijeoma Josh
December 5, 2013 at 1:40 pmAge is just a number,but u can’t say a 22 year old girl shld marry a 60 year old man or a 40 yrs old lady to a young man of 24.there will always be difference in interest.it just dosent work except for occasions where d age difference is not as much.the lying part is a no no….a good marriage should be built on trust,truth and openness.
Tofunmi
December 5, 2013 at 1:56 pmAge is just a number. Maturity is what keeps marriage and it isn’t a function of age. Nevertheless, the age difference between two people coming together in marriage shouldn’t be too much. For me, its still cool if the bride is 1-3years older than the groom, or if the groom is 1-10 years older than the groom. Candidly,anything more than the above age difference might not be too fine for me.
osinachi nkwocha celine
December 5, 2013 at 2:41 pmAge is just a number.love is d̶̲̥̅̊ key to everytin in this world.and maturity is also involve.§☺⌣̊┈̥-̶̯͡»̶̥·̵̭̌✽̤̥̈̊ when the two love each other and there is maturity then age is worthless.
Candy Rex
December 5, 2013 at 4:59 pmi hate lies. i might be able to handle any ish as far as you tell me from the onset, but if you have been lying to me about it, then you probably have other things hidden. meanwhile you’ve made it difficult for me to trust you. its better to have someone tell you the truth themselves than for you to discover it. it breaks the trust totally and we all know that its difficult to build. as for the age difference, despite the fact that its just a number there should still be limits. when the age difference is noticably too much, for me its a no-no. personally its not cool for me if the bride is older…dats my personal opinion though it doesn’t matter; its also ok if the man is older with about 10yrs. it all personal opinion and choice.
Nnebedum Nkiru bravery
December 6, 2013 at 5:56 amI can marry a man old enough to be M̶̲̥̅γ̲̣̣̥ father or young enough to be M̶̲̥̅γ̲̣̣̥ son as long as our marriage ℓ̊Ƨ̷̜̩̌̋ built in love, complete trust, fidelity, transparency, truth, understanding & other vital things that makes a relation work out well. Of which age ℓ̊Ƨ̷̜̩̌̋ excluded. But lying ℓ̊Ƨ̷̜̩̌̋ never an option, thou I don’t need a messenger to tell me this guy ℓ̊Ƨ̷̜̩̌̋ older or am older. Tnx Steph! U̶̲̥̅̊я da best.
steven ibemere
December 8, 2013 at 9:23 pmI buy the comment of Nnebedum Nkeiru Bravery that is my own reply too.
uchex
December 6, 2013 at 8:43 amage z nt an obstacle in luv bkuz dy said luv z blind…bt it look so insultive nd amazin wen a guy marries a woman who is older dan him bkuz d guy we never end up witot avin insults…4me i beta marry a gal am older than, to marry a girl worthless of my age…age also determine ur maturity nd thinking
famous ref
December 12, 2013 at 4:16 pmage is just a number it doesn’t matter at all
Maryc
January 23, 2014 at 9:11 pmAge does’nt matter really, but if u re marrying someone that’s younger than u and there’s no maturity in him, I think it matters to m.