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What I caught on TV!

It’s an old one, the winner has emerged but the lessons are still fresh in my mind especially since I stole a look at a re-run of the show last week. I stood for a minute to soak in a few words said by Tyra and her judges – It’s America’s Next Top Model Cycle 16! A very passionate episode filled with insecurities, squabbles, drama and raw jealousy! That’s the spice of any reality show – we like to see people in their real elements. One that stood out for me was the war between two contestants – Alexandria Everett and Brittani Kline. Alexandria came out tops in one of the photo-shoots and got a car as the prize for that effort. With that win came the fangs of sour losers. All the other girls were upset, so upset was Brittani Kline that she couldn’t hide her disgust, anger, jealousy and displeasure to see this “untalented girl” drive away with this huge prize, and so in front of the team and sponsors of the show and their clients, Brittani went on a full glare attack on Alexandria’s person, saying: “you do not deserve to win that car, I don’t care what anyone thinks!” Alexandria was torn to shreds by this attack.

And when it was time to eliminate, Tyra was adamant of getting rid of Brittani for her tart and unprofessional behaviour.

“You have to learn to show and give respect – to your clients, to your co-workers, and to yourself…or else you will not go very far with your pursuits, no matter how good you think you are…left to me, you’ll be eliminated this week for this behaviour,” Tyra said to the now distraught Brittani who was crying and apologising profusely.

Fortunately, Brittani was saved by the other judges who believed she deserved a second chance. She picked up what was left of her common sense and mended things out professionally with Alexandria. With jealousy and anger out of the way, Brittani concentrated on the only thing that truly mattered – winning the competition.

And yes, Brittani Kline won that competition! This was the same person who almost allowed her pettiness and unecessary envy get in the way of her own success!

There’s just so much to learn from that scenario: if you spend most of your time judging, hating, bickering, and noting the flaws of others, when would you have the time to live your own life? You automatically make yourself the bystander with no ambition when you are busy scrutinizing other people’s business. But the minute you focus on YOU and let others be, you begin to groom the best YOU for the biggest prize of life.

For the rest of the year, I dare you to focus on being the best YOU!



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    August 27, 2012 at 10:14 am

    Life is all about patient

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    omorode Mary
    August 27, 2012 at 10:22 am

    life is al abt patience wen u ve patience tins wil wrk for gud to does who lv God

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    August 27, 2012 at 10:46 am

    If not that tyra bank and d judges gave her a second chance, she would have missed a life time opportunity. It is not everybody that is opportune to getting a second chance. So let’s try and make proper use of the opportunities that comes to us daily.

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    August 27, 2012 at 11:37 am

    Tyra saved her……If not she would have missed it all.

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    August 27, 2012 at 12:01 pm

    Yeah one should always focus on d important things of life and hold on 2 d good parts of it and leave all form of jealousy and hatred

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    Nkeasi Joan
    August 27, 2012 at 12:18 pm

    thank you once more anty Steph i will try to go behond all measures to be the real me not just this year but as long as i live

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    August 27, 2012 at 12:44 pm

    Nice one mrs matter wat,every1 deserves a second chance @ makin it right.

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    August 27, 2012 at 12:53 pm

    interesting and educative.

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    August 27, 2012 at 1:08 pm

    Life is too beautiful…I wont live my life for others cos enving others means thinking about them so much that you put them first before yourself…and moreso, there too much space for everyone.

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    August 27, 2012 at 1:16 pm

    Word!!!focusin on being u brings out ur truest qualities…enough of living life d way people around us want us to…being d real u rocks n i’m goin all d way…thanx Steph!

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    August 27, 2012 at 1:26 pm

    Steph love ur blog,ur so real n deep.dis is so true,I watched dat episode and didn’t understand the anger coming from the girls.yea tryin to be the best ME this year and u.

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    Jenny baby
    August 27, 2012 at 2:43 pm

    You right stephanie I mean she shuldn’t have reacted dat way and if not for d judges she wuld have missed her chance of winning so it teaches us to be focused and be on our best behaviour

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    Ada Nnanna
    August 27, 2012 at 3:59 pm

    As a human being we sm tyms loose focus but realising ourselves is wat makes us who we are.

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    Fauzzy Rex
    August 27, 2012 at 4:07 pm

    Wow…Dats interesting and a very big lesson to us especially girls.u knw, “when God is blessing ur neighbour it means he is in d neighborhood,so don’t let envy and jealousy make him pass u by”…thanks for sharing dis story Steph,I personally learnt from it.

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    August 27, 2012 at 5:03 pm

    well said. people tends to look at the irrelevant things forgetting the very necessary things #bless

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    August 27, 2012 at 6:46 pm

    I love ds piece…i cnt ‎​‎​stopp readng over and over again,makes a lot of sense to me..thumbs up diva

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    August 27, 2012 at 7:03 pm

    Girl this piece is really interesting and it really touched me,am feel so refresh now

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    August 27, 2012 at 7:18 pm

    this article speaks to me,just today all ive been working for ,for over a month,came crashing down.ive been so pissed and have locked myself without food throughout d day,now with this,i can say,my focus has changed,im gonna concentrate on being a better me and seek avenues to upgrade my self.thanks steph.

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      August 27, 2012 at 7:24 pm

      The good thing is you have identified your issues. one step at a time and you will get to your desired destination.

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    August 28, 2012 at 4:40 am

    Wow dis is so inspiring.everyone deserves a second chance in life and it is gud to also hv confidence in ur abilities.I love ur blog steph u are so real.

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    Kosoko olaitan adunni
    August 28, 2012 at 7:05 am

    am the best me that can ever be,so am gonna forge on cus my best days are still
    cheers steph!

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    August 28, 2012 at 10:36 am

    Oh my! Oh wow!

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    August 28, 2012 at 11:51 am

    The suitable caption for this is” Overcoming the Complex in You”.

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    August 28, 2012 at 3:48 pm

    One step @ a time,you are so right steph.jealousy,being judgmental, hatered, wickedness,anger is evil, i followed that tyra banks’ cycle she was so lucky for dat sec chance.ladies learn from happy sisters if someone is blessed so dat u partake in d same grace

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    America;The land of the brave
    August 29, 2012 at 2:34 am

    Like to see people in their true elements.
    Envy or the green eyed demon makes people think and do irrational things.

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    August 31, 2012 at 10:26 am

    Well said!

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    August 31, 2012 at 12:58 pm

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    August 31, 2012 at 2:34 pm

    Thanks steph, thats encouraging.we should always first remove the dirt from our eyes before condemning others.

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    September 1, 2012 at 4:55 pm

    Wow!am so luving dis…brittani experince has really taught me a lesson

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