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Control Your Anger


We all know what anger is, and we’ve all felt it: whether as a fleeting annoyance or as a full-fledged rage. Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you’re at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion.
These are some ways you could handle that deadly feeling when it comes:

1) Give yourself a break. Make sure to schedule some personal time during especially stressful parts of the day. You might have a rule that the first 15 minutes after coming home from work will be quiet time, for example. With this brief respite, you’ll feel better prepared to handle demands from your kids without blowing up.

2) Better communication: Angry people tend to jump to conclusions, however far-fetched. If you are in a heated discussion, slow down. Listen carefully to what the other person is saying. And take your time before answering. Instead of saying the first thing that comes into your head, think carefully about what you want to say.

3) Relaxation: Simple relaxation tools, such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery, can help soothe angry feelings.

4) Humor: Humor can help defuse rage in several ways. For one thing, it can help you get a more balanced perspective. When you find yourself thinking of a coworker as a single-cell life form, think what that would look like, picturing an amoeba sitting at a desk and talking on the phone. Or draw a picture. Doing so will take the edge off your fury or help defuse a tense situation. There are two cautions in using humor. First, don’t try to just “laugh off” your problems. Rather, use humor to help yourself face them more constructively. Second, don’t use harsh, sarcastic humor. Such humor is just another form of aggression.

5) Avoid what you can: If you get furious when you walk by your child’s messy room, shut the door. Don’t make yourself look at what infuriates you. And don’t tell yourself your child should clean up so you won’t have to be angry. That’s not the point: The point is to keep yourself calm.



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    June 23, 2013 at 4:51 am

    Wow, i can not but say THANK YOU Stephanie.
    We are proud of you.
    Love you!

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    June 23, 2013 at 5:59 am

    So happy I found this page……

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    June 23, 2013 at 6:14 am


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    prince richard osrah
    June 23, 2013 at 6:37 am

    This is just right. True anger management lesson

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    Anyanwu juliet
    June 23, 2013 at 6:39 am


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    Vivian ogechukwu
    June 23, 2013 at 6:58 am

    Certainly yes! Good advice.

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    Uche ogbonna
    June 23, 2013 at 6:25 pm

    You are right! anger is onething one needs to control always because is very dangerous and can destroy what one takes years to put up and also agree with you on these points to controlling it and i believe if one should stick to these points there will be a positive result.

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    lblady blue
    June 24, 2013 at 6:52 am

    Absolutely rite,,thx alot for the advice

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    Collins Awor Lopwonya
    June 24, 2013 at 8:43 am

    That was grate, i like ur thoughts.

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    Candy Rex
    June 28, 2013 at 4:17 pm

    thanks. really nyc.
    another thing i learnt to do is to count to ten whenever i am tempted to respond angrilly to anything. it helps!

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