Hello SL Fabz! Here is Victoria and she needs your help. Do read and tell us what you think she should do…
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Hello Stephie, I’d like to read the suggestions of SL fabz on this issue:
After graduating five years ago, I only just got a job last year. It was a tedious wait as I come from a family of six children and I am the second child. My income is something the whole family has been waiting for to help in family needs and spending.
The job is a good one and affords me the opportunity to travel to many African countries.
Three months ago, my boss asked me out. He said he’d like to date me, but he is a married man; and when I brought that up he said his marriage is a very unfulfilling one, and he is tired of it.
I told him, “no, I can’t date you.” And ever since then he has made my work very redundant in the office; he gives all the major work to my subordinate and has cancelled all my business trips for the year. Last week he asked my assistant to attend a very important meeting with him, which I was supposed to attend.
Now I just sit in the office and I am largely ignored by him and giving no kind of fulfilling work.
I fear he is warming up to sack me.
Please what should I do? I don’t want to date him, but I don’t want to lose my job.
Help!
– Victoria
10 Comments
Ugochi Norah
August 29, 2014 at 12:20 pmMy dear, you cannot please your boss and displease yourself. Dating a married man is senseless because he has nothing to offer but money and destroy, and mess up with your future. I know is not easy but i will advice you to stop the job since you have decided not to date him. Is not good to enjoy today and other days will be miserable for you . Remember whatever you sow is what you will reap. My dear be prayerful, there is nothing God cannot cannot do. GOD will give you the best.
antoinette
August 29, 2014 at 12:34 pmDear victoria, doing d wrong things does not make things right or better even if it seems so temporaly.You will be doing urself a lot of good to stick to ur guts and not date ur boss.If u can keep urserlf for that long and still got d job on a clean slate, then d lord will fight ur battle and u will hold ur peace amen.Hold on and be strong.
loveth uche
August 29, 2014 at 5:32 pmMy Dear, Always stick to ur words, neva mind d challenges u r facing now. If really dat job is for u, u will must surely conqueror d devil. bt all the same, back it up with prayers d Almighty God will see u true. Be strong and courageous.
aniekeme
August 29, 2014 at 8:54 pmMy dear Victoria,the day you start dating him, that is when ur enslavement start. Because ur whole life will be controlled by him.which might mare ur future n’mariage. That u r not travelinng or attaining meetings doesnt mean anything. Stay where he keeps you and put your faith in God.he will perfect all that concerns you
Felicity
August 29, 2014 at 2:57 pmFew month ago, i found myself in a situation where i was in a relationship with my boss. I worked for him for 4 years and only the 4th year that he showed his interest in me. He was married for as long as i knew him. While working for him i was one of the closest employees to him and i knew a lot of things that were happening in his life. His wife was cheating on him to the point that her caught her in bed with another man. I knew about this because they started fighting from their house to the office and every other employee knew about it and this incident happened in 2012. This couple regardless of their struggles did not go part ways. he said he was unhappy so was the wife and she wanted the divorce but he said he wouldn’t divorce her because of the kids and the choice of men the wife had made while they were married. But all of that was not true. I went out with him a couple of times and this guy knew the kind of girl i was and i had told him that i was still virgin and it was a disgrace for my family to have sex out of mariage, he understood that and was happy with the non-sexual relationship we had. but one day i confronted him because i thought that he was serious about the relationship i said to him we need to takeit to the next level, and of course guess what he said? what will people say about me? im the boss they will say i date my employees because my wife was also working for me before we got married and he gave me such a long story that i had to decide that we need to cut the relationship. i made the decision, he was the boss and she showed me that i could chose to stop dating me but he could also show me that he owns the company.i was crying every single day at work and my cousin told me take this as a lesson, tomorrow you might meet someone in the same situation, God want you to go through this so that you can share your story and help others. Nothing happens for no reason everything happens for a reason. The one lesson i learnt from that is that never date a married man, boss or not and don’t even think to ever do that. you know, only when it became too much that i couldn’t bear it, God opened doors for me for a new job, i got head hunted and even was offered a very good salary than where i was. So, if you have ever thought of dating your boss, Victoria i need you to repent and ask God for his help, and he will make a way for you. I am a living testimony. I’m not proud of what i did. we fall short in one way or the other but what is important is how we get back on our feet after we have fallen
Faith
August 29, 2014 at 5:08 pmThis is something you shouldn’t comtemplate; you cannot please your boss and displease God. Its time to take it a notch higher – take it up spiritually, go on your knees and begin to pray. Give the Lord no rest and he will fight this battle for you.
oma
August 29, 2014 at 8:38 pmfor the man to start treating u bad means he does not love you and want to ruin ur future,if he likes you at all,it will be a suggestion for u to make up ur mind.
pray n if it continues,quit d job b4 he sacks you.
jeremiah Tarilado
August 30, 2014 at 1:48 amIf you don’t want you to date him, then, don’t!
Let him sack you if he wants
You will get a better job.
Just be hopeful.
But never destroy your integrity.
He’s a married man, let him be
Mike
August 30, 2014 at 10:44 pmAll things work together for good to them that love God.
The bible said; that the fear of God tendeth to life and that ve it shall abide satisfied.
My dear do not compromise,GOD wil see u through
Azure Prince
August 31, 2014 at 5:04 pmcalm down my dear vic God is in control,never give up.But keep praying to God for he will surely answer you.