Your comments opened our eyes to the reality of what many people are going through in their relationship! I just have a few things to say concerning some of the comments we got…
Judith Okafor – I am not sure why you would stay with a man who tells you that you are not beautiful! Your spouse should be the one person that truly sees deep into your soul and appreciates you for who you are! It is very sad that you have to hear your partner say that to you! So sad!
Unachi: If your girlfriend is dating her boss, why is she flipping over the fact that you flirt with girls on facebook? Both of you might need to re-evaluate your relationship so you get the best from it.
Omolara Obafemi: please do not say your marriage is on the verge of breaking down just because your husband is super-busy at the moment. He is probably spending all this time so he can provide the necessary financial security for his family. Give him the support he needs, and continue to pray for God’s grace upon your marriage, and the strength to get by.
Sopsunky: you need to have a heart-to-heart talk with your man. He is supposed to be the primary giver of the home, so it is inappropriate for him to leave those responsibilities for you to take care of, especially as it concerns the children. If he doesn’t respond favourably, you might need the assistance of family members or clerics that he respects to intervene. All the best!
Sharon Adjoa Amnanda: if your boyfriend wants to end the relationship based on the reasons given, then please move on and away from it! It would be different if he was willing to “fight” for you, against the wishes of his parents. But since he is on their side, isn’t it wise for you to move on so you don’t get burned-out eventually?
Dafe Best: in love, the key word is – “us” not “me”. So when you say your fiancée doesn’t do things the way YOU want, it sounds a bit selfish. Find out why she is always sticking to her ways, try to empathise with her and work it out knowing she has a strong personality.
Shallyaaa: you might need to show your boyfriend how to “shower you with gifts” by doing exactly what you want for him. Let us assume he isn’t aware that romance comes with buying your loved one special gifts; the best way to teach him is to practice what you want him to learn. Buy him a nice cologne, handkerchiefs, a nice shirt…after a while he will reciprocate the gesture.
Courage: wow! Your husband sure has guts. I think at this stage you might need to get someone he respects to talk to him. And if you think you need to improve on the things he likes, please do. But I think it is wrong for him to blatantly address you like that – making it look as if cheating on you is a lesser sin.
Owen: as much as the make-me-fabulous date will be good for your man, his self-confidence is something he has to decide to build regardless of how he looks or his financial status.
Wumi: when partners act as if they are in a competition, it is the fastest way to kill romance! You should have a chat with him and address this issue. All the best!
Phew! I hope we have helped some of you with our advice; beyond the make-me-fabulous treat, we want you to be happy in your relationship!
If you have anything to add to what has been said, please leave a comment and save someone’s relationship today!
We shall reveal the short-list of those we have considered for the treat shortly (PLEASE NOTE IT IS A DIFFERENT LIST FROM THE PEOPLE WE ADVISED HERE!). Remember that eventually only ONE person (and his/her partner) will go for this special Make-Me-Fabulous experience!
Till then, keep your fingers crossed.
Love ya
xoxo
#SL
17 Comments
peter John
November 20, 2012 at 12:33 pmYou are one in a million. Pray 2 meet U soon
Sharon Adjoa Amanda
November 20, 2012 at 12:37 pmthanks so much for your advice i hope i can go through with it by God’s grace and will try my best to walk away but it hurt so much am very grateful for your words may God bless u
thank u dearest
Hugo
November 20, 2012 at 12:43 pmTo the Married: marriage was defined in a funny way by a certain sage”marriage is the only institution you never will graduate but can fail” When asked further,he maintains that its like a football team,that when of the teammates,makes mistakes,play-on and correct later. That if one fails to pass the ball to the other,he loses the ball and there is danger of goal against:
The problems of today marriages is not poverty but greed,not Love but tolerance. We tend to expect so much from our partners. The husbands expects the wife to do all the house work,go to work and takecare of the kids. While the wives expects the husbands to Faruk-Lawan* all the money he ever Otedolad to make her happy.* there are those that get married because she/he has to. Pray against such person. But if perchance u meet such,don’t. Quit,seek God’s face,treat him/her like your best asset. Sooner than you think,the story will change.
LOVE conquereth all:::and God is LOVE. So pls LOVE!
Ogonna
November 20, 2012 at 1:16 pmIf your partner is guilty of the above,re-evaluate yourself and see if there is something you are not doing right and correct it.Even if u are fat make sure u are always clean and fresh all the time.Above all be urself no matter what he will come and appreciate you.Don’t forget God in all.
Paulina okpe
November 20, 2012 at 1:49 pmNo man is worth dieing for ,if ur man / woman complian that u are urgly or fat ,den he she does’nt deserve u.any one who is after the physical beauty of a woman or a man is a player,who is embacking on a journey of no return.those who lost over physical apearanec are player so they dont deserve u cos u are the best of ur kind. Life gose on without him or her”.
Owen
November 20, 2012 at 2:16 pmThanks a lot, we would work it out.
winnifred thomas
November 20, 2012 at 2:31 pmNeed an advice
Olabisi
November 20, 2012 at 2:34 pmi wl aprc8 his bluntness.But a guestion is all i av 4 him.”Wat dd u c wen u first saw or met me?…….If mai beauty is one of d answer gvn….i guess i av to adjust mai beauty tips.Cos Men don’t say wtout seeing!
AdeB
November 20, 2012 at 3:05 pmi love u so much Steph even though am nt a big fan of home videos.and am crazy about your blog.its so wonderful!keep it up.#bighugz#
Cathy
November 20, 2012 at 3:18 pmwow!
bukola
November 20, 2012 at 3:49 pmIt is quite important to know that ur partner is meant to be ur closest friend,the only one that can and must accept you the way youi are.You are meant to love the one u marry and not necessary marry d one u love most in some cases cos u might think he/she loves u so deeply initially but when challenges comes it is d love you have built intentionally that will keep the marriage on that is why it is important to marry at most one’s friend I.e marry ur friend,it helps a lot and remember a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage,so think twice and think wise.
Aghogho Isiorhovoja
November 20, 2012 at 3:58 pmThat’s a sign that the relationship won’t last any longer, so back out and go for the 1 that will love u just d way u are because even if u try loose or add weight he will always look for a way 2 take your confidence from you.. Once your partner starts seeing fault in you know that he/she is seeing some one else alreadt
francisca mensah
November 20, 2012 at 9:14 pmI will try to him change ,so it can help our relationship.if he dosen’t change or take my advice then I will leave him and take care of kids.work hard to raise my kids…
francisca mensah
November 20, 2012 at 9:32 pmWow, my partner may be seltfish and he loves knw one but him self .no one can live with such a person
Osasu
November 21, 2012 at 6:41 amTo the abandon woman nd hr children.God is able to bring helpers ur way,just b prayerful don’t abound d children,if u where married,meet with d man of God where ur marriage took place.make sure d children ar in sch whether Govt or private.pray 4 d guy sometime manipulations hs greeped hm,sometime selfishness hs overtaken him.u can set him free just by praying,sometimes lack of wisdow to play his role.do ur best,no marriage non caring 4 children in heaven.if God has enabled u financial don’t complain.move ur home forward.Am contributing frm experience with 2 kidz……………God is able to make all things beautiful.
Faustina
November 21, 2012 at 9:38 ami love dis blog,it just stands out cos at the end of d day w learn.keep it up dear Steph.
really a man who does not appreciate u and ur body has no business in your life.this is a sign of failure in the first place.if he so bluntly said you r ugly believe me he would never b able to present you outside as his babe or wife.you’ll only be an asset under d confines of his house.even if as a lady u have poor self esteem,he shud b d one to help boost it not crush it!
its a fact that ones marriage might turn out to be what one least expected,but believe me as at the time you are going into it u need to be sure of your actions and pray your judgement is right.but d worst thing one would do is to see the tell-tale signs and ignore them.
kemisola
November 26, 2012 at 11:53 ammove on wit life ,if a man marry becos of beauty,beauty will fade one day so where is d luv,as for the kids God will takia of the kids is a faithful God and keep on praying,somehow someday he will come to his senses.