WHAT WOULD YOU DO?
Hi SL Fabz, let’s round up this week with a Q and A session, where I ask and you answer..
The question for this week is a tricky and delicate one; “you have been in a relationship with a fabulous guy/lady for a while and it’s time to take them to the altar, your church requires some things before they can marry you, one of which is an HIV test, it turns out he/she is HIV positive and somehow you are in the clear, what would you do? would you leave him/her or would you marry him/her against all odds?
Let’s hear from you…
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Ofcourse I will leave her
illd leave her nd move on with ma life…but ill always love her.
that doesnt even make sense…
sounds like the things people do…divorce and say “we would always be the best of friends”
BTW Steph id leave him because why didnt he tell me that he was HIV positive? and well if he didnt know, he’d have to understand
LOL of course ud love him more TILL he gives u HIV
I’ll leave him nt cos of the HIV bt becos he wznt honest wf me frm d start. Todays my bdai. Wud u be kind to send a birthday mail? It wud mke my day. Thanks
Because I love her I will go the extra miles to find out if its medically possible to be with her and not be infected, have kids and the kids be safe as well, but if its risky and not possible she has to understand that its only right to stay apart so as to avoid spreading the disease to future generation. But I will always be there for her and whoever the lady I marry in the future is she has to know I have a friend I hold dearly.
No matter the love I have for her, dies instaniouslly when she was diagonised hiv positive, I canot because of love give myselve an uending injury, and moreso when u want to tet married, you are not the only one getting married to the girl, its ur entire family. So I strongly believe that parent will never subscribe to deat in the name of love, I will have to leave her and I will tell her outrightly that I can’t get married to her,and I will call off the wedding. thank u stephanie for your question……..
I’ll leave her till she get fine
I will leave him cos I won’t be hapi anymore…
I won’t leave him if I truly luv him. wit God all tins r possible.
Hi steph……
Good day…ur question is indeed a tricky n delicate one…but d issue here is nt about dating anymore..the relationship has been taken 2 d next level which is marriage …I will advice 2 drop d marriage cos we r all humans n can never feel comfortable with a HIV positive spouse…ving full knowlegde of d dos n donts which r limted..in other 2 save everyone d stress,walking out is d best option dan marrying out of pity n frustrate d hell out of dem….my opinion tho…
This is a very tricky question, because we are talkin about real love ere. Love for me is being wit someone I cannot live without, so I am 100% sure that I will go ahead and marry him. Thank God for. Treatments and counsellin d only tin dere is dat. We will. Not have a child together and we will b xtremely careful, together we can fight it.
I’ll end the marriage,but the most important thing is love and he’ll get that for as long as he lives
Hahahaahhaha, Steph the question is really tricky especially because the both has been claiming love for each other but the truth is that I’ll leave him cus I’ll also consider how the f**khe got that. If that makes him think I never loved him then he never loved me too since we’ve been dating for a while, one of the prove of love should be abstainance or faithfulness. I won’t risk my life cus he chose not to be careful, I’ll simply move on n wish he never got that sh*t. I love this question Steph cus it’s really making me think about my relationship n stuff. Thanks love n remain blessed
Hmmm,bein an HIV positive is not a death setence.advancement in medical technology has proved that d disease can be adequatly n properly managed.even couple wit HIV positive status can give birth 2 HIV negativ & healthy children,studies hav also shown that wit a cocktail of drugs an HIV negativ person can marry an HIV positiv person an both would produce babies wit da negativ stil remainin negativ witout contactin the disease. And a recent sturdy in da united state has shown that an HIV positiv patient who had a bone marrow transplant was found 2 be negativ after d transplant witout any trace of d virus in his system. Thus signalin that somday humanity wil neva hav 2 worry about the scourge of HIV as the wil be total cure. So I wil go ahead an marry my HIV posive sweetheart.
while as for me i wil leave for d safety of the future children.Frm Enugu
I wnt be able 2 go on wiv D̶̲̥̅̊ marriage…4 D̶̲̥̅̊ fact dat i dnt want my children 2 face scandal 4rm society
If I love him very well, I will stay with him no mater the situation. When it gets to the time of intercourse he will use drugs to prevent me from getting it.
Hmmm I will still love Her but not I will get married 2 another person
If d luv is there I will marry him against all odds. After all there is every tendency that our kids won’t have it and there are drugs to last us up for awhile
On this wonderful day pray to the lord. And watch your movies.
Love surpases HIV,true love know no boundary or barrier.if the the couples truly love each other they can marry.there are fast killer disease than Hiv.here comes my answer.i will go ahead with the marraige after all there is no life issurance policy for anybody.above all, God is the answer,i mean with absolute faith in him,he will provide the strenght to carry on with life.that it
I will stand by him,cause am sure that my leaving him would devastate him moreover there’s nothing that’s not possible with God.
If really I luv him, then there is noting I can not bear with him.
I would leave him,simple
I wil marry him if am positive but if not I will quit..
If I sincerely love the guy, I will stay, nd marry him, becos there is a drug those that hv HIV takes its called Antiretroviral drug. If he takes it properly and even before intercourse he can’t transfer the disease. Even if its the woman that has it and she takes her drugs often nd even wen she is pregnant she can’t transfer it to her baby, if she continues wit her drugs. Her baby can’t be infected too cos of the drugs(antiretroviral drugs) . Since it can be managed nd I truly love him, I will stay. Also there is nufin God cannot do.
I WILL NOT MARRY AN HIV INFECTED PERSON BIKO. IF HE/SHE IS HIV INFECTED AND I AM NOT, THAT MEANS HE/ SHE IS NOT FAITHFUL DURING OUR RELATIONSHIP, SO I WILL NOT MARRY THE PERSON THATS ALL.
Hmm! Rili hard qust indeed. I will say if we(both parties) think dey can go ahead and manage d(their) health issues den we(they)can go 2 d Altar.
In d case where we( both parties) think otherwise,den we(both parties) will(shld) part ways amicably. At d end it all depends on d man and his lady ‘cos frm d start it was all abt the two of you.
It depends on hw far and how much ave been with d person and love him, cos dat is d time 2 show dat i care, then i’ll cont with d marriage, with doctors directives
I will still marry the guy after all there is no different between HIV , CANCER FIBROID and any other disease
I pray such never happens though. Sincerely, if I were really in love, I will go ahead and get married because I would have to put myself in the person’s shoes. Then we would look up to God for a miracle cos there is no impossibility with God. Moreso,true love conquers all.
I would leave him and move on, the risk would be to high to dare.
A friend once shared such an experience with mƺ, I was shocked at the news because the guy was very nice to her that I even get jealous of her sometimes. I told her to leave the guy and move on simply because I can’t afford to lose her to HIV.
My advice for every intended couple Į̸̸̨§ to go for HIV test first before or immediately after the marriage proposal, before the start of wedding plans. Its very important!
Thanks for this opportunity.
Its clear that am not the one that shared the virus so whom ever she got it from I think they deserve to enjoy the rest of their life together coz marring against all odds is not applicable in such a trasferable family eleminating virus.
I’ll marry Him if he makes me happy. D ride is not going to be easy anyway
I will marry him being hiv positive is nt d end of d world.i will even love him more
Haaa! No b small thing o. I ll nt marry him but i ll b der as a frnds.
Though its hard, but i’ll do what’s best. I will leave him to save us d stress of feeling guilty n burdened…..
If we’ve shared something very D̲̅ε̲̣̣̣ǎ̜̣̍®, we are fond of each other, we’ve been tru alot together & we truely luv each other, I’ll stick to him cos true luv covers alot of sins. There are things I learnth in life, what if the virus ℓ̊Ƨ̷̜̩̌̋ still on incubation period then after the marriage it burst open what will be the fate of the two? The only thing there ℓ̊Ƨ̷̜̩̌̋ to stay, luv, care, encourage him & give him a sense of belonging. He’ll be happy & together we build our home, after all we can have healthy babies. There are 101 diseases that HIV are better of than.
TnX Steph & Remain blessed.
I will not leave him. HIV is not AIDS and will can pervent it[HIV] from turning 2 AIDS.
I will never live him, I wil still go ahead with the wedding.
I will disappear. Leaving with HIV isnt easy with what ive heard.
I will marry him. because this time there are a lot of drugs you can take to prevent yourself from getting infected even if you have sex with a person leaving with HIV, and this is even the time the person needs your care and attention
damn! that’s some situation, what will i do? don’t know
hmm, u claim to love sum1, then y will u wanna leave him cos he’s HIV positive, as for me i wont leave, i will stay with him nd show him love, leaving him will kill him faster than the HIV, after all, we go abt preaching against discrimination so tell me y wont u practice wat u preach, if we wanna have sex, we will use condom, if we cnt have a baby we will adopt. I love to love no matter the situation, i like seeing pple happy. i wont leave him i will stay cos i love him, nd i love God.
I ll marry him if truly am in love with him