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Talk To Steph: How much calling is too much?

Lisa wrote:

Please can you enlighten me, calling your boyfriend to know how he is doing all the time, is it a crime? I met my boyfriend in February and he traveled back to UK in March and we started calling each other regularly.  I continued to call him and he wouldn’t pick and when he eventually picked he was telling me I called him too much, and next thing he cut off  and deleted me from his BB. Please advise me…is it obvious that my world is crashing or am I in denial?

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21 Comments

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    olaseji
    April 13, 2013 at 4:28 am

    Dont mind him , am sure he doesnt love you again that is why his behaving that way, just forget about him and keep moving

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    Jude ikem
    April 13, 2013 at 5:28 am

    Yeah too much calling is bad.once in a while try not to call him or her.to even see wether he or her will call back to ask whats happening..its good to call a loved one once in a while but me seeing your call every now and then.will make me get upset with you..sometime its good to give that loved one a brake.that dosnt mean you shuld not call once in a while.

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    maco
    April 13, 2013 at 6:04 am

    ts obvious he doesn’t want u again or mayb he is always busy but he needs 2 explain sme certain tins 4 u lyk during his Work hour or Business hour 2 avoid distraction,if he claim he luvs u. Besides ur world can neva crash jus keep ur fingers crossed cos I see notin wrong wit u calling ur Guy.

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    amina
    April 13, 2013 at 6:07 am

    ♍Ɣ D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥αƔ​, no amount of cal is 2 much 4 sum1 U̶̲̥̅̊ luv. I tink he is tried of d relationship n wnts out bt has no excuse. I advice U̶̲̥̅̊ move on wit U̶̲̥̅̊r life, it might nt b easy bt U̶̲̥̅̊ hav 2

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    AJasa Jinuola
    April 13, 2013 at 6:35 am

    Tank god u’ve nt gone 2 far wit him.y nt jux let him b n move on wit ur life sweetie.am sure der ar better guyz dat wnt u in Nigeria dat u ar nt even. Given dem chance all becos of a distance relationship .Think twice

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    glory
    April 13, 2013 at 6:51 am

    Most time our calls is lik a burden 2 them especially when we do it often. But in her own case I think d guy is tired of her, because going 2 d extent of deleting her from his bb shows d girl means notting 2 her. Unless there is something more 2 it.

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    ivy
    April 13, 2013 at 6:53 am

    My dear ,ur world shouldn’t crumble cos u ar strong and independent. Trust me he is nt 4u,wait on God n he will bring u ur man.One dat cnt wait to receive ur call.

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    Candy
    April 13, 2013 at 7:56 am

    Hi.
    Well, wat is too much for one person might not be enough for another. U said u started dating in february and he travelled in march, which in most cases is not enough time to get to know each other and ‘bond’.One tin I knw for sure is dat most men dnt like women who are clingy; most times they get d impression they are desperate or can’t av a life of their own without dem. Imagine d impression you give him wen @ d beginning of ur relationship you are too ‘clingy’.
    When u got the impression that he did nt like u calling too often u shud av given him a little space to figure out what he wants for himself….and to miss ur voice, the conversation, etc. Its not always nice wen u make urself available for a man. Let him have the impression that apart from him,u have other things to think about. And dnt let him feel u r always available. Ur world is not crashing; even if it doesn’t work out wit him try dis in ur new relationship. Finally,always believe that whateva belongs to u will always come back to you. I wish you luck.

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    onyeoziri Nkechi
    April 13, 2013 at 8:31 am

    Lisa,When U̶̲̥̅̊ call unneccessaryly I bliv ı̣̣̣s̶̲̥̅̊ 2much calling.Since he ı̣̣̣s̶̲̥̅̊ υ̲̣̥я̩̥̊ BB frnd U̶̲̥̅̊ can ping him if he replys then he ı̣̣̣s̶̲̥̅̊ less busy bt if not ɪ̣̝̇†̥̥ means he ı̣̣̣s̶̲̥̅̊ busy.U̶̲̥̅̊ shud try nd call him during that time he told U̶̲̥̅̊ 2cal not bcos U̶̲̥̅̊’re idle U̶̲̥̅̊ now want2 be disturbing him wit a cheap nd not important calls.Advice urself nd be kiaful.

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    Nekky
    April 13, 2013 at 9:14 am

    its obvious he doesn’t want you again so please move on with your life.

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    debo joy
    April 13, 2013 at 10:38 am

    Lisa, first of all think properly if u’ve done something wrong dat u need 2 apologize buh if there’s nothing and he has started feeling so irritated wif ur calls, pls do well 2 move on wif ur life. If he’s ur man, he’ll cum bck 4 u. Remember ur nt tired 2 him, b a strong woman Lisa.

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    gift aniekan
    April 13, 2013 at 11:40 am

    it not a crime lisa but is just that the young man does’nt need you, so lady i wil advice you to move on with your life.

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    precious chidinma mbachu
    April 13, 2013 at 1:00 pm

    He never loved u persay u were just a fling when he was in town. Cos no amount of call is too much to put thru ones love esp when u are not close to each other. Move on

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    Gift aniekan
    April 13, 2013 at 1:34 pm

    Hi Lisa, forget the young man and move on with your life you have a lot of things to fullfilled in life as a human being pls be useful to your family, and your society forget about him.

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    owen
    April 13, 2013 at 2:51 pm

    Sorry to break it to you sister, you’ve been dumped!. Game Over!. Get new sets of playing cards!. Calls can never be too much, my boo calls me several times a day, talks to my siblings too, and we on chat everytime. Sister look @ the bright side, you now have the opportunity to meet the man of your dreams. SL knows what im talking about. Lol. Goodluck Lisa.

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    ogee
    April 13, 2013 at 7:25 pm

    Lisa, u can read the hand writing on the wall. Dat guy only used u to pass his time while around, now he is gone and so are u.

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    samuel ikechukwu
    April 15, 2013 at 12:14 pm

    any way is not good to be disturbing some on phone like that, atlist once in a day is ok to call.i had expirence this kind of situation befor.dis girl always call me ten(10)time in a day at a time i begin to regard her calls as a disturbance,sometimes i cann’t even peak her call untill i delect her number 4rm my phone .

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    Erika
    April 23, 2013 at 3:46 am

    Hey giiirrrlll i feel uuu 🙁 u know what, never care for someone who doesnt care about you. Be proud of you, get confidence. Stop running after someone who dont deserve you. But before you gone, try to meet with him and ask him what is wrong, if he want to break up. If he consider you like an option just go away. Its hardbut you have to accept it. Its better crying 1 or 2 month than crying many years.

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    chitel
    April 27, 2013 at 11:23 am

    My dear such is life! carry on,move on cos smtin grate is abt 2 happen or can’t u c so my dear don’t let des pull u down.Be strong n make urself happy

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    eberejenny
    September 6, 2013 at 12:11 am

    I think men r cheats

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    slimdove
    August 1, 2014 at 2:23 pm

    pls gal move on with your life…stop calling him for nw…..if he loves you as he will call u

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