Ok! I’m jumping into the pool with this one. LOL! Since the blog started and people are getting a hang of what our focus-on-content is all about, we’ve been getting loads of emails on this-and-that. So I’ll take it one by one. Men have been asking: “how do I get a good woman?”
Here are 5 tips that can help…
Get a job:
A busy man is a very attracted kind. When you have a job it gives you a certain kind of confidence that completes your masculinity. As a man, you want to be in control, and financial strength gives you the ability to be in charge. Women do not take jobless men seriously; and having a job doesn’t necessarily mean you are locked up in an office, you could run your own business – no matter how small initially as long as there are prospects of growth, and a healthy sense of ambition.
Be a gentleman:
A gentleman means you do not kiss-and-tell, you do not hit a woman, you do not lose your temper unnecessarily, you do not get drunk, you do not act out your frustration inappropriately. A gentleman walks out of a relationship with the lessons he has learnt and his head held high – he is not vindictive and doesn’t keep a grudge; he attends to the emotions of women with care and consideration. He doesn’t act like a tout or make certain decisions that would harm another person. Nature always honours a man of that kind because they are rare species.
Look good:
Exercise. Lose the tummy fat. Wear cologne. Dress appropriately. Keep your breath fresh. Cut your nails. And smile. You can never go wrong looking suave. Like bees to honey, women will run towards you!
Be spiritual:
Have the covering of God upon your life. There’s just something sublime about a man that knows God. It’s in his eyes, his thoughts, they words that come out from his mouth, his attention to details, the way he attends to crises… there’s a glow to his presence; it’s like a magnet that pulls the right people to him. And with God, he has a discerning spirit to make the right choices out of life. Not that he is perfect, but he is made whole – in God.
Be the Head:
A man who can fix things, solve problems, run his life properly and those in his care shows great maturity and he becomes wanted by women! Learn how to be useful. Men want women who can cook and take charge domestically, and women want men who can fix appliances and make lasting decisions that they (women) can put their trust in! No woman wants a boy who isn’t sure where his next meal is coming from or what the nearest future holds. Women want to submit to men who can direct their path towards a course that leads to promise.
My honest opinion. What else do you think we can add to the list? Let’s hear it!
120 Comments
Shirley Nnenna Eluwa
September 19, 2012 at 11:52 amThis is the best article I have ever read
theresa
September 19, 2012 at 11:55 amNo 6. Visit stephs blog everyday 2 kip u informed…
U hit it gal…u rock!
Emenike Everest Uzor
September 19, 2012 at 11:59 amYou ve said it all…
richard isiguzo
September 19, 2012 at 12:01 pmHey I love those words..keep it up.
Gloria
September 19, 2012 at 12:01 pmdetailed
David Westerof
September 19, 2012 at 12:03 pmTnx alot, cos u’ve discovered our thumbscrew…
Then after all dis qualities, hw about d ladies? Hw do i locate d right woman, dat is attracted 2 all dis things u’ve mention, 2avoid gettin close 2 a wast-rel
Tina Hermosa
September 19, 2012 at 12:03 pmI’m really confused Stef.. I want to know if is right to date a guy whom am in the same level with in the tertiary institution?? People end up saying it wouldn’t work.. And is this really true?
diogu chikadibia
September 19, 2012 at 12:04 pmI tink i’v read sumtin like dis b4,itz al true…i jst want to add dat d guy must b honest2…neva lie 2 ur woman or would b woman..
emmanuel gracephine
September 19, 2012 at 12:05 pmwow! I love dis, keep it up.
Richird Dienga
September 19, 2012 at 12:05 pmThx so much steph u actually help me to make some decession about men too may God bless
vivian
September 19, 2012 at 12:05 pmThis is superb! Hope our men will learn from this!
Benneth Doris
September 19, 2012 at 12:06 pmSteph u re blessed….I ve always admired u and thanks for this blog its really a blog i look forward to every day…..I hope the men will see this….God bless you and keep up the Good work.
Victoria ibiam
September 19, 2012 at 12:06 pmI love dis article,kip it up sweety!
Marc le Pere Mwanto
September 19, 2012 at 12:07 pmTrue d@
Aji Ceesay
September 19, 2012 at 12:08 pmI am with you on all counts, sister. My man needs to be a pillar of strength. I can never date a guy who is jobless on purpose, has bad breath, can’t fix a light bulb and has no connection with God.
itunu
September 19, 2012 at 12:08 pmI loved every bit of the blog, we actually dnt need no 6. Kudos to u
peace ossy
September 19, 2012 at 12:09 pmtruelly this blog has thought me alot,,,i ll keep them and act upon it,….
jennifer egbuonu
September 19, 2012 at 12:09 pmgood…now we ladies need to hear about “Tips to getting a good man”…**winks**
lovely osayande
September 19, 2012 at 12:11 pmnice article stephen keep it up cos u really tried in ur written good more of dis 4 our young men tanx alot
Hannaniah Godwin
September 19, 2012 at 12:12 pmI luv diz!!!!
christy
September 19, 2012 at 12:15 pmLove your article. But how do I get d right man.
amenyedzi reuben ganyo
September 19, 2012 at 12:15 pmyou hit the nail right on the heard thank u.am searching for my future partner and i think i will use your advice.+233249345417 is my number
Alachebe chichi sussy
September 19, 2012 at 12:15 pmA man should be honest in all he do
Adaobi ifediorah
September 19, 2012 at 12:18 pmlv u ma model, u got it all
lucy
September 19, 2012 at 12:18 pmSpendid!!!!
Adeolu Adesiyakan
September 19, 2012 at 12:22 pmWao!!! Having all these traits will have to make the chap super perfect. How about having all these traits as a man excluding the belly pouch, how is that then?
ARUMORA OMINIGBO
September 19, 2012 at 12:22 pmTHESE ARTICLES ARE WONDERFULLY GOOD I LOVE THIS.
orukpe
September 19, 2012 at 12:25 pmI love dis! 9ice one pls k it up
ANYANWU RITA
September 19, 2012 at 12:26 pmto be candid, your words re great. you got it all
Oby Jane
September 19, 2012 at 12:26 pmThis is one of the best post I have ever read ! Hope the men (the culprit among them) learn from this !
Taiwo
September 19, 2012 at 12:27 pmHi hi, you said it all Stephanie but I will just add few words to it. A man needs to be tolerant, patient and also have respect, a man who has ego I.e a man who’s full of himself can never get to anywhere in fact no body will want to get close to him. Most especially having the Fear of God is very important because the fear of God is the beginning of WISDOM. A man with a fear of God can never go wrong in everything he do.
GINA
September 19, 2012 at 5:58 pmTHANKS FOR DIS ADVICE,I PRAY OUR MEN CAN LEARN AND STOP BEING A WIFE BEATER FOR ONCE IN THEIR LIFE,
chioma nwosu
September 26, 2012 at 11:13 pmi hate a proud man,i hate a man that dont take care of a woman and also dont ve time for his partner sure man is not a husband material most women avoid them.
Kate Solomon
September 19, 2012 at 12:30 pmI love every bit of the article. Pls let’s talk about the women. How do you know he is the right man for you? What are the qualities of a good woman?
charyz
September 19, 2012 at 12:31 pmu r simply the best Stef
Gift
September 19, 2012 at 12:40 pmI lv dis article,bst I av cum across.
Cool Johnny
September 19, 2012 at 12:41 pmDis ‘ll make us to be on top of our home wit love n care. Thanks more of it.
Cathy
September 19, 2012 at 12:45 pmNot bad i will say. kudos
Yahaya Leah
September 19, 2012 at 12:49 pmnice one, keep the gud work rolling Steph!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Nkiru Tony-Ugwu
September 19, 2012 at 12:52 pmu hv said it all gal, good tips
jacklin ben
September 19, 2012 at 12:55 pmmy sister u av said it all
Aminata Bangura
September 19, 2012 at 12:59 pmI like dis topic it very nice
Clara
September 19, 2012 at 1:01 pmi love dis
chicye
September 19, 2012 at 1:18 pmwow! nice one Steph,i hope dis goes along way in developing our men.Am in love with u and dis article 😉
Ezeh Nkem
September 19, 2012 at 1:23 pmHIGH 5 to that one dear, you’ve got it all……. Keep it up Swt Steph…… Mur power 2 u
majok duot
September 19, 2012 at 1:26 pmperfect article,i lyke such.
Jane Okenwa
September 19, 2012 at 1:33 pmNice one
Atiso kehinde joy
September 19, 2012 at 1:36 pmDis is really nice. Do keep it up. More power to ur elbow.
Caroline
September 19, 2012 at 1:40 pmMost sincere article I’ve read in a long time,most especially number 1,money can never be underestimated in marriage/relationships.But most african men hide from this fact………….Step baby,u rock!!!
Bolaji
September 19, 2012 at 1:44 pmU re jst to wonderful
benedicta hanson
September 19, 2012 at 2:00 pmVery good article
Genevieve
September 19, 2012 at 2:05 pmSo on point……. Lovely
Tolulope
September 19, 2012 at 2:06 pmLOVE IT !!! A man must also be fun to b with, he should have a sense of humour. Nice article steph
mimi
September 19, 2012 at 2:08 pmGud1 stef! D̶̲̥̅̊☺ kip it up, and pls we also need D̶̲̥̅̊ traits of a gud womam. 10x
fomtina
September 19, 2012 at 2:11 pmwow, you nailed it. Thanks Stephnie
charles
September 19, 2012 at 2:12 pmnice article…..but what are d qualities of a good woman
joemay goroh
September 19, 2012 at 2:13 pmSeriously this is nice. Thanks step
Queeneth
September 19, 2012 at 2:14 pmYou have concluded it all, baby!
christabel John
September 19, 2012 at 2:17 pmU r perfectly right any man wit dis qualities is will ever be every woman’s dream a big tanx 2 stephanie i ray 4 more grace and wisdom upon ur life.
PHILOMENA FELIX
September 19, 2012 at 2:24 pmYou have made my day, this is best article I’ve ever read.
May
September 19, 2012 at 2:24 pmKudos steph u re so on point…… Luv diz article
Lucy Lu
September 19, 2012 at 2:26 pmI do Agree with what you have said Steph.I would like to add No.6.A man should be a RISK TAKER!
Asentha
September 19, 2012 at 2:27 pmhey, steph gal, u did hit the nail on the head,have always being a fan of urs on facebook buh ever since the introduction of ur blog,i have been so reluctant or say lazy to take a look at it and now that i’ve done,am so so hooked.keep it up, God bless u.
Frank
September 19, 2012 at 2:30 pmOf course, the ladies would find this interesting. Goldminers! Not all great men come ready made. We’ve got a bunch of selfish women all around these days. Some of you will wait forever in the quest for Mr perfect!!!
Rita
September 19, 2012 at 3:38 pmawww, poor you. don’t choke on your hate for women, ok? Get a job then maybe you’ll find out that getting a N10k gift for ur girlfriend every year is not “gold digging”. It is only the poor and frustrated that go on and on and on about “how she wants to eat my money”. How much do u have in ur bank account? eh? N100k or N50k…is dat the money the gold diggers want to eat? Everybody talks about what men want in a woman, for once someone is talking about what women want in a man. Take the lessons and becoms a better man. stop being so bitter cos u can’t get the kind of woman u want.
timi
September 19, 2012 at 4:59 pmL̳̿☺Ö̤̣̇☺ː̗̀(=)))ː̖́☺Ö̤̣̇☺L̳̿. I dnt knw is own defination of gold digger self,stop been lazy no matta how love conquers all poverty frustrates love.
sade osifalujo
September 19, 2012 at 2:30 pmthis is a perfect article, u have said it all.
peace
September 19, 2012 at 2:34 pmstef my model i lov dis tips bt is for men, hw cn ladies kw dia right man?
Warrie, Ime
September 19, 2012 at 2:45 pmthe 5 tips are ok, but, what are the 5 tips for womem. For if men poessess all this qualities and the women have non of this , what will be the situation then . I still needs your 5 tips to get a good wive as this will balance the equation.
sulaiman
September 19, 2012 at 3:07 pmWhat an interesting tips
uzoagba chinedu jonathan
September 19, 2012 at 3:08 pmI only like a woman that I appreciate a man the way the man is without complain
Eme
September 19, 2012 at 3:13 pmi love this article!
sulaiman
September 19, 2012 at 3:13 pmThis is actually a challenge to men
victoria
September 19, 2012 at 3:32 pmYou really do speak the truth! No woman will want 2 dance with a man dat don’t ave dream, ability 2 do things right, dirty, not caring, selfish, every woman likes men who can hold up to dere words. And any man who bit woman is a tout.
cynthia nonso
September 19, 2012 at 3:32 pmu no what u just make correct point there baby keep it up luv that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ebinum Patience
September 19, 2012 at 3:41 pmThis is good from good Stephanie well thanks 4 d talk.But is a challenge to all not 4 man alone .
josephine
September 19, 2012 at 3:48 pmYou hv said it all . It’s a challenge to Men.
Dimkpagu Anthony
September 19, 2012 at 3:55 pmThere are good,men like this, but Good women does not believe and appreciate them
Ezeh chinelo
September 19, 2012 at 4:16 pmStephanie I love u so much nd wuld rily lik to knw u personally bt I knw its jus lik asking u to cut ur head off ryt
Chemical
September 19, 2012 at 4:37 pmSteph,you got them all perfect but my advice to all women is dat no one is born perfect.Just get 70% of the tips nd help your man with 30% otherwise u may stick in your fathers apartment waiting for mr perfect
Effiong
September 19, 2012 at 5:10 pm@Chemical. I dont think this is a perfect list oh. This is actually the BASICS – a man has to make some money, smell good, know how to use his hands and brains, and be kind. That’s basics not perfect. A perfect list would read: a house in Banana Island and a mansion in Sychelles. A range Rover for work and a Limo for weekends. $5m reserved in a swiss account. 6-packs abs and a very handsome face (stephanie was even modest enough not to mention looks). My brother, get these basics so u can live well.
Dozzykings
September 19, 2012 at 10:45 pm@Effiong, even your perfect list isn’t perfect. but the basics are are perfect. One more thing….6pack abs you said. But its surprising how our ladies in naija get spare tyre all over and are looking for 6packs abs. loll
Jessica
September 20, 2012 at 7:11 amgirls don’t look for 6packs as much as guys drowl over big booty. so stop hating. take what u can from this and move on! You obviously don’t have 6packs that is why it is paining u! besides, stephanie was indeed kind enough not to mention looks. that shows women are not high on looks, we just can’t stand a man with alcohol singing in his tummy
timi
September 19, 2012 at 4:49 pmHmmmmm so motivated,U̶̲̥̅̊ rule my world since my secondary school days,ur my role model U̶̲̥̅̊ stand so tall among women. Kudooooozzzz 2 U̶̲̥̅̊.
debbie
September 19, 2012 at 5:01 pmAm luvin diz!
Carchi
September 19, 2012 at 5:49 pmCan’t get it into my strong head why a guy wil be asking his babe for money…. impossible!! maybe i need counselling.
Ayo
September 19, 2012 at 6:59 pmThumbs up!!! you have definately ticked all the important boxes. Nice one Stephanie.
Dozzykings
September 19, 2012 at 10:38 pmwow!! This is the best and amazing truth you can rarely get from anywhere. God bless your wisdom and give you more. Amen!
OGE
September 20, 2012 at 7:57 amnne u ve said it all. now dats d ish. well done sis.
ebele nwikwu
September 20, 2012 at 8:40 am✽̤̈̊Ŧɑ̤̥̈̊п̥̥̲̣̣̣kƨ̣̣̣̇̇̇̇✽̤̈̊ for those words Steph men should also Ħª√ę listening ears
2black
September 20, 2012 at 8:43 amNice. Really nice. But in a country where getting a gud job is difficult. Should men without a gud job refrain 4rm being in a relationship? Or should women avoid such men?
Sharon
September 20, 2012 at 9:25 amI really love this article it is one of the best article have read so far keep it up
Daniel
September 20, 2012 at 10:21 amHi steph, tnx 4 d blog, dis r d things evry guy shuld av or b 2 get d woman of his dreams, uv rily touchd so many lives wiv dis. & 2 d guys, 1 more tin, B URSELF, cos only by dis wuld u get ur own good woman.
toyin balogun
September 20, 2012 at 2:14 pmnice one eally. independence is a great key a man needs
link
September 20, 2012 at 4:01 pmthere is one catch there Stephanie. I can say am correspond but woman are just afraid of me. many of them tell me that openly and at the end they run away or don’t understand me.
Metche
September 20, 2012 at 4:13 pmYou have said it all. Men please If you can keep to the five tips above, you will get the woman of your dream.
Rita Evbu
September 20, 2012 at 4:13 pmwot a luvly work u are doin, Qudus 2 u 4 ur gud work. I will luv 2 see dis kind of gud work 4r u. D Lord bless u 4 the gud work’s and advises.
jane
September 21, 2012 at 12:00 pmi completely agree with you!
dauda
September 22, 2012 at 2:30 amhi, i want u to know u have tot well but u could get a fast guy wit all those quality n u will be attracted and if his aim is achieved or not u will still have d gratest hrt break. So most times is just God. And gals its also applicable to u too no guy as well need a total dependant too. Tanks DD
Igwegbe ThankGod
September 22, 2012 at 6:56 amyea you are right carry go.
may
September 22, 2012 at 12:23 pmi luv dis article stephanie more grace 2 ur elbow
mary B
September 22, 2012 at 12:58 pmi luv dis sweety keep it up
chika ozoagu
September 22, 2012 at 3:12 pmi love it keep it up
amenyedzi reuben ganyo
September 24, 2012 at 1:15 amsteph, i really need to settle down very soon but i seem not to be in any relationship,so am seriouly searching all over the world for that lady that wil be the my heartbeat.call me if u that lady +233249345417 or +233266320964.should be independent,loving,caring,humble,Godfearing,faithful,hardworking,beautiful and intelligent.
amenyedzi reuben ganyo
September 24, 2012 at 1:16 amadd me on facebook amenyedzi86@yahoo.com
ESSIEN
September 24, 2012 at 9:42 amThanx steph, you’ve said it all . God will help us men to be head dat we were made to be .
Ify Anyaogu
September 24, 2012 at 2:15 pmNo 6, women want a men that will give them attention, No 7, women want men that will appreciate them tell how beautiful their hair look, how nice their dress is, compliment ur woman. No 8, women need men dt will carry them along in their decisions, No 9, women need men dt will be honest to them, NO 10, women need men dt will love them, just love her becos she is special. Thank u very much.
lucheeez
September 25, 2012 at 5:01 amstef,dats a 9ice one,cudoz
Ofoegbu Juliet
September 25, 2012 at 10:49 amMy God dis is d most fabulous article i av ever read dis is gud keep it up.
Chinonso
September 25, 2012 at 9:07 pmThis is realy wonderful. Kip up d gud work.
Joyce
September 25, 2012 at 10:00 pmI love this.God bless you for everything you have said.
Uzochukwu
September 27, 2012 at 10:49 amNice saying and to add to numb.2 ,a gentleman is also a man who keeps his word
kindong victor chah
September 28, 2012 at 12:11 pmyou are God send espetialy to me at this moment when i am in a deep shit becous i did not know what to do to attract a woman to myself. Thanks alot. Keep on with the good job.
Jessica
October 1, 2012 at 9:18 amWoooow i really love dis article n u’ve said all, this is hw guys shld be… steph u rock.
OYEBOLA
October 4, 2012 at 10:02 amI love dis words of adivce.pls keep it up,i lean on each ur adivce.
clairzmodelz
October 5, 2012 at 5:55 pmstephanie,you are very correct. But most girls just don’t think like you. some of them are empty as basket without garbages but the want to marry good husband and some can’t even treat there spouse rigth. You need to talk to them please.
reuben edem mccoy
October 13, 2012 at 10:08 pmi love what i read here and am still searching so i will use your advice.my contacts are +233249345417 or +233266320964.hey if you want to know me add me on facebook or call me and you will get to know me.
Nkemuakonam
October 16, 2012 at 6:18 amWhen men start becoming defensive on a simple basic truth, be careful something is wrong. Steph didn’t say that u must have all de money in de world, but u must have something doing at least to be paying your bills and be in control. How can a man that cannot make a good decision be loved, and by the way do u think that love can fill that ur empty stomach if u are jobless and u are not doing anything about it. Steph u just said the truth not minding whose ox is gored. Kudos!
Divine
October 19, 2012 at 12:58 pmStephani, thanks for that. You are very intelligent.
Adanu Isaiah
April 26, 2013 at 6:23 amStef what about going to the market, butik and super market and getin their undies, panties, bra etc, cooking for ur woman, been proud of her any were any time, making promises and fulfiling them, reaching and accomodating ur love’s family members? and a woman turns around and dump u for the reason dat u are not working, no car , no cash, no house, even when they seens to vissible prospect, I am a graduate with a Bachelor Degree in political science, dated her for years and after enguaging her with a gold ring she jilted me for a man with a car, and now i have a job and she is staging a come back what do i do.