Thanks for all your wonderful comments on previous posts. Your responses go a long way to help a lot of people with different questions and issues, and of course, for those funny ones, you certainly make my day!
Today, we’re going to be discussing a very important topic on relationships with the hope of finding solutions to avoiding or dealing with them.
The question is: What is the biggest source of conflict in a relationship?
1. In-laws
2. Cheating
3. Money
4. Lies
5. Phone calls
6. Rumors
7. Maid (House boy/girl)
8. Work demands
9. OTHERS (Specify)
If you choose any of the options, please state your reasons. Who knows, you just might be helping someone out of a difficult situation.
xoxo
SL
15 Comments
jeribond
January 15, 2014 at 6:53 amRumors,I picked this one because it has just ended my relationship,what I believe is when your ι̥η ɑ relationship,people are always there to say this or that,what will make υ different is if you ignore them.but if one of the either parties chose to use what he or she have had,hmmm and if its just ɑ rumor,then that relationship is on its way to crashlanding.my advice is not all rumors are tobe check or taken to heart,most of it are ment tobe ignored.
Chuks
January 15, 2014 at 7:13 amRUMURS-A lot of failed or troubled relationships including marriages are based on association.Rumurs come in through contact.The type of associates determine the weight of discussion therein.It is from this that animorsity is built and once it sets in,suspicion is established.This gives room to lack of trust and so cracks in relationships.Against this backdrop,am of the view that once you are on a relationship,you should hold on to your man/woman.It is you two only affairs.Never expose or discuss sensitive issues pertaining your affairs with friends to avoid suggestions which wil build up ‘them say’ tomorrow.Thanks for this indepth discuss which I believe will go a long way in taming our people.
Anthony
January 15, 2014 at 7:15 amMoney can easily breed conflict in a relationship as well as cheating. The issue of money could stem lack of it or the management of it. Then cheating has to do with lack of contentment. My advice with regards to money is understanding between both parties. While on cheating discipline from both parties is required. Deriving satisfaction from each other is of essence.
Emmanuel.
January 15, 2014 at 7:16 amTo have a successful relationship, both party should keep away from lies, always be truthful to each other cos nothing but the truth can set us free from all anxiety.
kosarachi
January 15, 2014 at 7:21 amLIES. When one of the parties is known for lieing, it will be very difficult to trust that person anytime anywhere no matter what, and when there is no trust in a r/ship that r/ship will collapse oneday
esther
January 15, 2014 at 8:10 amHello Stephanie, I pick none. The greatest cause of conflict in relationships is caused by lack of trust. Nowadays people just date themselves without trusting. Even married couples don’t trust themselves which is not their fault. It is mostly caused by their past experiences. Trust goes a long way also and trust can’t just be given out like that. Trust is meant to be built among ourselves. When there is trust, both partners can overcome all other causes of conflicts in relationships because trust brings about automatic unity among the partners. Thank you
Bisi Awosanya
January 15, 2014 at 8:11 amAll of the above without prejudice!!!!!!!!!!!. they are inimical to a good and lasting relationship..
Joy
January 15, 2014 at 8:38 amCommunication, lack of communication is bad in a relationship or marriage. If you don’t talk how would you know n understand your partner feelings, what make him\ her cry, laugh, happy or sad. If there is cheating in a relationship is lack of communication, if you allow rumor to come between you is lack of communication cause if you know your partner that well, you will not listen outsiders talk when they come you tell them I know what he or she can do so is not my guy or girl, man or wife. Communication in relationship or marriage helps
chidinma
January 15, 2014 at 9:00 amI pick lies. This is because trust is difficult, if not impossible, to find in a relationship filled with lies. And it is difficult also to begin separating the lies from whatever truth that is left in the relationship.
Gloria
January 15, 2014 at 9:36 amLies: ones their is lie in a relationship it will led to lack of trust and if the is not trust that relationship will not work out well.
Nkechi Ikwuagwu
January 15, 2014 at 9:48 amThe biggest source of conflict in a relationship (marriage) in particular is LACK OF LOVE. Some people enter into a relationship with a wrong motive like getting married because most of your mates are married, marrying to please d partner, because of riches etc. When a marriage is devoid of love from one partner or both, it breeds other conflicts like cheating-extramarital affairs, Lies, In-law- there won’t be respect for inlaw, money- there won’t be enough money to bring home when he cheats, he makes scret phone call and wouldn’t allow the partner to touch his phone. With d above points of mine, if we should make love our first priority of getting married, we would be able to curb all other problems that associate with lack of it. Because one can endure so manu things because of love.
jenny
January 15, 2014 at 12:46 pmIn laws : this has really ended so many relationship which we need to stop now
Anushka Oway
January 15, 2014 at 5:12 pmI think it’s lack of love and lack of God fearing. When these 2options are strong in a relationship ,this will keep the parteners away from lieing , cheating ,considering rumours… It’ll also help them to overcome money and in-law’s interference problems.
Faith Arisa
January 17, 2014 at 2:50 pmIt’s no. 4: Lies
junie
January 17, 2014 at 8:35 pmTho different strokes for different people but I know it mostly cheating dt causes ripples cos even d cheats themselves hate it. Xoxo