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What I know for sure!

Fashion is over-rated! We need to understand that our heels, the designer bags, the diamonds, couture wardrobe are just accessories and not who we really are! The obsession with fashion and beauty and the pop culture distract the average Nigerian youth from the core elements that makes a person inspiring. By all means be fashionable but you owe it to yourself, society and to God to be much more than a mannequin. Our values are so twisted! Our students should focus on getting an education, not hustling to get an LV bag. There’s time for everything. And even when that time comes when you can afford all the glitter in the world, fashion will always be the extra benefit – not the main ingredient. First, build substance! Your love for the latest designer this-and-that will not increase your IQ unfortunately. And like Michelle Obama stated some time back, “I don’t want to waste anxiety on something as limited as clothes.” Word!

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    pattyclues
    September 6, 2012 at 6:00 pm

    Steph, τhξ crave for fashion ļş something else and really over τhξ top. You have just Įτ̣̣̥
    τhξ nail on head. Tnx for τhξ word ☺ƒ wisdom.

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    Tolulope
    September 6, 2012 at 6:12 pm

    Yep, shake my head when I c youths get crazy to get d latest accessory nd not b eager to get their lives straight, one word – misplaced priorities. Thanks steph for d word.

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    nkay
    September 6, 2012 at 6:12 pm

    So true, Fashion is soooo over-rated #smh#

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    Cynthia Ese
    September 6, 2012 at 6:19 pm

    Madam Linus, our 9ja babes need to read this.

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    emmyroy
    September 6, 2012 at 6:19 pm

    jst like stephanie has sed, learn to be real nd cut ur coat according to ur clothe!! Dont allow fashion define ur standards in life. Develop ursef substantialy nd fashion wil become incidental thereto. All d best guys!!!

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    Carol
    September 6, 2012 at 6:34 pm

    amazing!

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    nekky
    September 6, 2012 at 6:48 pm

    Well said dearie!!!!!!!!! This word of wisdom goes to : young girls,married women,young boys! Let there be moderacy in what we wear! Let’s be more conscious of eternity and our soul not our flesh! May God help us all in Jesus name Amen!!!!

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    Nguseer
    September 6, 2012 at 6:52 pm

    u are my role model girl, ur blog is the bomb and I like dis piece today. keep it up dearie

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    Edna
    September 6, 2012 at 6:57 pm

    We do not need to forget that the way we dress is the way we will be addressed, so as much as we need to work on our values, our clothing should also be modest.

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    katey
    September 6, 2012 at 6:59 pm

    I have cheated death recently and when God decided to save my life.. I started placing my priorities right. I ve never been a fashion craze person.. I dress classic and conservative and I make sure I look good, but trust me there is more to this life than clothes and an LV bag. When I was struggling to survive, I wore like 3 cloths in a space of 2mths, had 50k in my drawer that I couldn’t spend cos i wasn’t allowed to eat for 2mths so I can survive…and there and then I knew that life is a lone race and only God can save u and give u a reason to leave.. I could afford all the lv bags in the world, gold jewelries et al.. But if God didn’t save me as he did.. I wouldn’t be alive to crave for meaningless things.. What am I saying .. Life is deep.. And run to God everyone

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    Uju
    September 6, 2012 at 7:01 pm

    Oh my jingles like you live in my mind. Seriously our naija students really have to get their priorities straight. There is more to life than the latest blackberry, sugar daddies and color blocking or trashy dressing. Seriously your happy a guy driving a BMW x6 stopped and gave you a ride, did. It ever occur to you that it’s that breast he is seeing through that see thru chiffon top you wore without a camisole that he saw and not you, how do u expect him to make you his wife, you can only be a sex object to him so no matter how u want to dress or display skills in bed, you have giving the impression that all there is to you is what ur body can do for you and not what ur brains can do for you. ( I have been there and I know what i’m talking about. when one strays from what one knows should be and go about it the way that seems easier thank God I found myself).

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    katey
    September 6, 2012 at 7:02 pm

    I have cheated death recently and when God decided to save my life.. I started placing my priorities right. I ve never been a fashion craze person.. I dress classic and conservative and I make sure I look good, but trust me there is more to this life than clothes and an LV bag. When I was struggling to survive, I wore like 3 cloths in a space of 2mths, had 50k in my drawer that I couldn’t spend cos i wasn’t allowed to eat for 2mths so I can survive…and there and then I knew that life is a lone race and only God can save u and give u a reason to live.. I could afford all the lv bags in the world, gold jewellery et al.. But if God didn’t save me as he did.. I wouldn’t be alive to crave for meaningless things.. What am I saying .. Life is deep.. And run to God everyone

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    Owen
    September 6, 2012 at 7:04 pm

    Say dat again Sister! Fashion, perversion and low selfesteem seem to go in line nowadays. No one is perfect, so we need sisters like you and Mrs Obama to show d way.

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    sylvia
    September 6, 2012 at 7:16 pm

    Well said maam, u nailed it. I don’t know why youths of today are so crazy about fashion, I’ll rather be stylish than be fashionable. I’m gonna copy dis and paste it on my facebook wall. Once again, I say thanks maan, u are and will continue to be my role model..luv u, luv ur blog

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    Akumere
    September 6, 2012 at 7:17 pm

    ’m not afraid of the truth,’m only afraid of those who doesn’t want Τ̅Ơ̴̴͡ hear it.(y)

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    Vivian Paul-Ahanonu
    September 6, 2012 at 7:22 pm

    Stephanie,u v nailed it my dear,ur word is like a mirror of wht is happening in our society 2day,evrybodi wants 2 belong,if r not on point u r missing or loosing it.Keep up d good wrk,all ur words on ur blog is motivational,u kinda of speak pples mind.Kudos!

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    pee
    September 6, 2012 at 7:26 pm

    Seriously fashion trend has gone haywire!! Kudoos to this blog! Its d best in naija, cos its so educating n inspiring,just like reading a motivational book!I won’t miss any post!

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    Dayo
    September 6, 2012 at 7:27 pm

    Mrs Linus, dis is very true! I wonder why so many ladies/women of nowadays are so crazy about fashion but it is good to be in vogue but they should not allow it to take and rule over their life. Spending too much money on shoes,bags, dresses etc is just wasting of money. At times, when women buy these items,they will realise that they don’t even need them but they buy it to show off rather than investing on a projects that will brings more moneyand profit their family and the future of their children.

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    Jenny baby
    September 6, 2012 at 7:29 pm

    Steph u culdnt hv put any better,I mean we hv to learn hw to put our pirioties straight and like u said be fashionable but dnt make it a do or die affair…I like fashion and I like good but I dnt let it tk over my life…sumone once said that the luxury of life r not important but there r necessary for the day to day runnin of our lives…double word!!!

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    rita
    September 6, 2012 at 7:32 pm

    i respect u..even as an actress.

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    uche Okonkwo
    September 6, 2012 at 7:38 pm

    Great message. Tnk u steph. I just ur message to all. My bbm and phone contacts. He dat has ear let him hear.

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    Zoey
    September 6, 2012 at 7:41 pm

    Nyc 1 steph,though some youths knw d aftamath of this tins bt they tend 2 ignore them.fashion indeed has nt only bin over rated but abused 2 d lowst level by nigerian youths in particular.tnks 4 anoda inspirational article i hope dis wil change d attitude of we youth 4 once.’not all dat glitters is gold’.u rock ma’am!

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    Bootylcious diva
    September 6, 2012 at 7:49 pm

    I always say it and will say it over and over again Steph I love you from the bottom of my heart you are a role model,Iam shoe Crazy I have more shoes than you can think ,yet you can’t see me wear them ,rather I enjoy just looking at it ,all this are vanity ,it won’t take you any way ,you just said it all sweet heart.nigerian girls and fake life ,they want to carry lv bag and Gucci bag yet they can’t afford it ,who do you want to impress .

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    faith
    September 6, 2012 at 7:53 pm

    Hmmmmmmn…dis is jst d bitter truth,it is so unfortunate that we youths av gone d wrong way bt thnk God 4 women lyk u Stephanie.U are a virtous woman.i will make sure i introduce this blog τ̅☺ more friends.thnx So much ma’am

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    jenny Nnaji
    September 6, 2012 at 7:53 pm

    Nice piece. We should learn to get our priorities right. Major on the major, and minor on the minor. I’m a fan of what you do on this blog. Good job stephanie.

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    temi
    September 6, 2012 at 7:54 pm

    Tnxs dear for d advice I wish does girl dat want to do anytin jst bcos of clothes can jst get dis word.

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    JB
    September 6, 2012 at 8:06 pm

    Over-rated indeed!
    I like to tell myself that fashion is very subjective. I can’t be bothered about what is en-vogue. I can’t lavish my capital on irrelevant things.

    I love Michelle Obama so much. She is such an inspiration too

    http://www.janylbenylshares.com

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    williams ebisinbofa
    September 6, 2012 at 8:06 pm

    Learning to put ones priorities straight should be ones concern..we shuld ask ourselves dis qst “what do we really need in life” am nt disputing the fact that we are in a world of technology whr fashion is kind of a necessity buh rather we shuld be moderate about it..moderation is the key word here. Imagine one hving an outlook dat is so fashionable den inwards the person is so daft.. Pls we all shuld be moderate in all we do..to you mrs linus pls continue ur good wrks n God will continue to bless u for touching our lives positively..”Thumbs up”

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    Diana
    September 6, 2012 at 8:09 pm

    Well said Stephanie. We are getting too wrapped up in social/fashion trends and letting essential mental,spiritual, and life goals suffer. Life is beyond short. Get right people!

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    Caca1luv
    September 6, 2012 at 8:12 pm

    D truth is dt we youths of these days ar after luxury. Busy chasin d high class wit any little daim we have. Sm even go 2 d extrem jus 2 aquire those tins jus 4 ntn bt 2 show off. Leavin bhind d tins dt maters more. Sm believ dt d cost of wt dey put on, defines dia worth nd level, 4gtn dt ones carriage, presention, approach 2 tins, reasnin nd sense of judgemnt, defines us better. My dear steph, i must admit, u ar doin a grt job here. Keep it up.

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    osayuki
    September 6, 2012 at 9:25 pm

    U have said it all. Thanks so much for this educative&inspiring blog. Indeed, you are a star. Keep up the good work.

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    priscilla
    September 6, 2012 at 9:39 pm

    Well said dear,God bless you

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    Iruka
    September 6, 2012 at 10:10 pm

    Mrs Linus thank u 4 d piece of advise/courage u gave 2 us God wil continue 2 bless u, But i want 2 u 2 put focuse to the Women especialy those dat ar in the high institutions, could u belive dat my 1 nd only girl friend quite up our Relationship bcos i couldn’t meet up wit d type of shoe she ask me 2 buy 4 her 2days ago am a student o 4 crayin out laoud.

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    Jenny
    September 6, 2012 at 10:18 pm

    Hard truth! Well said.

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    Sharon
    September 7, 2012 at 12:50 am

    Aawwwww…Steph!!!I so lovebu for this!i mean,it’s good to look good,but no need being obsessed about it! Smh…..they don’t knw.mcchheeewww….God bless u Steph,and the wonderful man standing solidly behind you!

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    Metche
    September 7, 2012 at 7:08 am

    Thank you so much for this word of advise. He that have ears should hear.

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    Metche
    September 7, 2012 at 7:10 am

    Hope you dont mind if i share this on my facebook wall because I really want my friends to read it. Thanks

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    bibi
    September 7, 2012 at 8:19 am

    my dear, u re so so point, i wish our youth can be educated and learn to be themselves, all things will later fall in place, crazy how someone would exchange her virginity for a BB curve only for another BB porshe to come out, an unfair exchange if u ask me…. i just love myself, av never bn under the influenced of peer pressure or competing with them… .the only competition i have is to surpass who i was yesterday, to be the better me each day i wake up…..Material things won’y give u class, i keep saying add value to urself inwardly and it will speak for u outwardly….some do all sorts to meet up, please people and attend all occasion.

    I love ur blog, keep inspiring us..much love to you

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    snowhite
    September 7, 2012 at 8:24 am

    Hi Stephie!
    U know what i like this topic. I really can’t say much but i hope all the young girls read this. peace

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    Allwell Nma
    September 7, 2012 at 8:37 am

    You are very right. Nice one

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    ndu
    September 7, 2012 at 9:36 am

    your comment make sense only if our people wil learn

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    snowhite
    September 7, 2012 at 9:39 am

    Hw r u? Am Chris and you? Can i join u? I will not be so praisy she might think am a jerk, I will just be a gentleman.

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    Ernestina
    September 7, 2012 at 9:53 am

    Hello beauty,do you mind if i join you? My name is Tina whats your lovely names.

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    Ernestina Nyanteh
    September 7, 2012 at 9:55 am

    Hello beauty,do you mind if i join you? My name is tina what your lovely name?

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    Cathy
    September 7, 2012 at 12:46 pm

    people are quick to point hands or judge when in their day to day experience they tend to look down on you if you are not ”in the same class” with them. yes fashion seem to be over rated and people more vain

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    fauzzy rex
    September 7, 2012 at 1:48 pm

    right on point!

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    anyanwu
    September 7, 2012 at 4:41 pm

    the next is introductiom

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    Esther Uche
    September 7, 2012 at 9:54 pm

    I so love this page

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    bello seun
    September 11, 2012 at 12:28 pm

    i thank u 4 all d good inspiration u av been sharing coz it has alot of positive impact in my lyfe.i pray dat god shld give u more strength in other 2 achieve ur heart desire.

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    Gdex
    September 13, 2012 at 6:49 pm

    Wish this piece can be translated into a movie, as so many youths are being influenced by what’s being canvanse on the screen. I believe the whole essence why we wear clothes is to cover up our nakedness and to look good which is secondry. Life’s worth more when priorities are set aright and not for the craze of whats in vogue.
    you are an actress Steph, its difficult to come by one with such a affluence opinion. Good work girl and keep living by this example

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