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TALK TO STEPH: Can I Marry A Man From Another Tribe?

Dear Stephanie,

I am an Igbo lady and I am in love with a Yoruba man. We met in the University about four years ago and started dating since then. I didn’t really think our relationship would last long, I just liked him then and I wanted to have a companion in school. But he has proven to be much more than I expected and he has asked me to marry him. We are both working and have good jobs but the only problem is his tribe. My parents have been telling me to leave the relationship for a long time but every time I try to leave, we always come back together. I said yes to his proposal but I don’t know how to break the news to my parents. They will never be in support of our marriage. What should I do?


Dear Oluchi,

Love is a beautiful thing, I must tell you, and I’m glad you’ve found love. Love transcends age, religion, tribe and many other social barriers we create for ourselves. I want you to know that it’s totally normal to find love with someone from a different tribe. However, I cannot tell you whether you should marry this man or not. What I can tell you is that if he is God’s will for you, God will touch the heart of your parents sooner or later. As parents, we want the best for our children and I’m sure your parents have valid reasons for not wanting you to be in this relationship. You should listen to them. But even more, you should listen to God and let him speak to your heart. Then trust your heart and let it guide you.

I sincerely wish you the very best and I hope you make the best choice.


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