Not Again!… — Talk To Steph–

Good answer,
Time to move on babe, dump that guy. RIGHT NOW!!!!

You know what? Too many ladies these days are so worried about getting married. They’re so desperate to have a ring on their finger. Marriage is a LIFE-TIME commitment. It’s not a joke, it’s not a movie or a play ground. Many people do not understand this, and that’s why there’s such a humungous rate of divorce in our generation.

First of all, I do not agree with premarital sex. Second, you get pregnant and then you abort not once, but twice and then you make the same mistake the third time.

Look, it’s your life and your choices. Nobody is forcing you to marry him and that does not mean that you should jump into marrying the other guy because ‘he’s ready to marry you’. What does that even mean? He wants to marry you, but do you love him? Do you want to spend the rest of your life with him? Is he the kind of person you want to be a father to your children or a grandfather to your grandchildren. Do you see yourself with either of these two guys in 10-20 years from now? Do you have any plans?

BTW, why are you even talking about a second guy when there’s a guy who has asked you to marry him? You are supposed to be in a relationship with one guy, so how come there’s another guy who has gotten to the stage of proposing marriage to you also already?

I think you are confused, not about which guy to ‘choose’ but you don’t even know where you stand in life. Is this about the innocent child or about you or the guys? There’s a much big universe out there than the 4 of you. Take a break from all this drama and get your priorities straight. Then make your decision. Please do not abort this 3rd child.

P.S. I am a female.

StyledBYKalack

She had the first, the second the guy call for an abortino then why did she go ahead for the third pregnancy? she’s the cause of every thing she’s the reason why the guy is calling of abortion because he might be thinking that she wants to forse him to marry her. Well as for me she shouldn’t abort this third child because she don’t know if this abortion can lead to her childlesness. As for the guy, he dosn’t want to marry her. I advise her to dump the guy & look for some one else. As for the current guy that want to marry her, the question is “did she love the guy? For now she should be thinking of how to deliver the baby whom we don’t know might be a ruler of a country or continet or even the world before she should be thinking of marriage. Thanks

Babe quickly pack ur baggages and run dnt walk becos dat guy is dangerous. He does not love u a bit. Don’t b disappointed dat there is anoda chick out dere. If there is someone else who is ready to accept u. Please and please go for him but just be careful

She should knw dat d guy dosent love her, if he does since he already proposed t d girl he wil accept d pregnancy, I wouldn’t advice d girl t abort the preg cos I don’t support that she should carry the baby.

Ready to marry her right now with the other guys pregnancy? Mimi this you friend is alway in ready “state ” always.
Advise, let her get a padlock and use it to pad her you know where, she is in “desperatemode” and obviously not thinking straight nor clearly, she should apply the brake and reevaluate her life, purpose and not be a marriage douche.
Ever ready battery.
She will keep hurting herself if she does not stop, and for all the guys around her, will keep using her as a breathing blanket, girl get a grip on Your self and life, life is more than a dick.

No responsible man will encourage the killing of his own baby. It happened for the first, second and now the third time. Such a person, definitely, should not be a lady’s first choice in marriage.

I don’t think she shld abort it yet again, cos it might be dangerous for her health. Cos if she does and dey get married and after 3years she’s not able to conceive,once under pressure from his folks to give dem grand children things will go bad. Meanwhile if d oda guy is ready to accept her and her baby den its best for her.

It’s rily sad dat tins lyk ds stil hapen.any guy dat sugests 2 his lady 2 abort a preg 4 wateva reasn,most esp of dis crap of a tin dat he doesnt v money,wil do d same ova n ova again.it’s d same tin wt a married man who tins r nt movin on wel wt him financialy,goes on impregnating his wife wn dy v 4 childrn,dy kant evn cater 4.pls,let us al wisen up.lastly,dear Mimi,i believe u knw wt 2 do.

Dear Mimi, tell ur friend three words: don’t try it! She has had two abortions already and its her life she is putting on d line. If this guy loves her, he wouldn’t readily risk her life on dt “financial stability” jargon. All she has going for her right now is her dignity n dt dude shld man up n take responsibility for his action.

my dear no matter what dont terminate the pregnancy ok think of this if that baby in ur womb is the last child u gonna have cos u have aborted twice.
for the sake of that baby in ur womb accept some one who will take care of u and ur baby.aborting twice for the other guy is already too much.think twice no matter what dont terminate the pregnancy one never know u mite lost ur life in the process even though i dnt pray for that,

I really appreciate the love and care u guys have shown to me and my friend concerning this issue. We’ve gone through and we are really grateful for your advice and comments and may God grant y’all your heart desires. Amen. I also want to extend ma gratitude to Mrs Linus may God bless your home. Thanks once again

Personally, I dont think you should be with either of them. I dont know either of them so i apologise if it sounds judgemental, but the situation in my opinion calls for this. In terms of the current boyfriend I don’t know any man who would have a woman that he loves and intends to marry abort 3 of their children, even one is too much. So your friend needs to re-evaluate her relationship and figure out if this guy really cares for her and plans to marry her. I would also suggest that she keeps the child. Just because you have a child with a man does not mean you have to be together or married. I mean that would be great in situation were both parties are on the same page, but if not it is okay. I wouldnt advice rushing to get married to someone else for whatever reason. First, figure out how you want to handle your current situation before anything. After that you can spend time with this guy or other men to figure out if he or they fit into your life and that of your child, you dont want to rush in and rush out. you want a clear mind and good understanding of what you and your partner want going into a marriage. Trust me it may prevent more heartache that is already in place, don’t make things more complicated than it already is.