Blog Talk to Steph

No Signs of Marriage…


Ony wrote :

Dear Steph,

I have been dating a guy for 4 years now, no signs of marriage.


Dear Ony,

I understand how this can be frustrating for you. It would have helped if you provided a bit more details as to what is going on. My advise for now will be : There are a lot of reasons why one would want to get married one of which is if they are ready. If he does not want to get married, he is simply not ready. 4 years is a good courtship length, still it is all relative. Marriage is a 2 way call. It has to be established on love and mutual grounds and not forced by the other person. If he is not ready (in all aspects) and you are, and its dragging maybe it is time to re-evaluate your relationship and communicate about it. Again, certain factors will determine if you need to make an immediate exit e.g the depth of the love you have for one another, reasons for the delay e.g financial situations etc. Let there be no external pressures. The reasons for getting married should be considered, not because everyone around you is getting married.You first need to find out the reason why you want to get married.  You have to decide whether you need to marry, have to marry, or want to marry. Once you figure that out and talk about it with your guy, the rest  should not be difficult. All the best.

Let’s hear what SL Fabz have to say. 





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