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I FOUND OUT THAT MY BOYFRIEND USED AI TO WRITE HIS VOWS. I FEEL SLIGHTED, HOW DO I APPROACH HIM ABOUT IT?

My husband and I recently got married after being together for eight years. During the vows, I noticed his sounded unusually formal, but I assumed he had put in extra effort to make the vows special. His words moved me to tears, and everyone seemed touched by them. However, today, while cancelling our shared ChatGPT account, I stumbled upon a file titled “Vows” and discovered that he had used AI to write them, copying and pasting the generated text verbatim. This made me realize that what I thought were his heartfelt words were actually crafted by AI.

Feeling deeply hurt and betrayed, I remember how much I appreciated his vows and how he assured me he meant every word. As someone who values personal, heartfelt expressions above all else, this is really painful, especially since I spent considerable time writing my vows. The fact that he used AI to create something so significant makes me feel foolish and sad. I don’t want to embarrass him or start a fight, but I need to address how this has affected me. How do I approach him about this without causing unnecessary conflict? Any advice on how to handle this situation would be greatly appreciated.

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