Ok! I’m jumping into the pool with this one. LOL! Since the blog started and people are getting a hang of what our focus-on-content is all about, we’ve been getting loads of emails on this-and-that. So I’ll take it one by one. Men have been asking: “how do I get a good woman?”
Here are 5 tips that can help…
Get a job:
A busy man is a very attracted kind. When you have a job it gives you a certain kind of confidence that completes your masculinity. As a man, you want to be in control, and financial strength gives you the ability to be in charge. Women do not take jobless men seriously; and having a job doesn’t necessarily mean you are locked up in an office, you could run your own business – no matter how small initially as long as there are prospects of growth, and a healthy sense of ambition.
Be a gentleman:
A gentleman means you do not kiss-and-tell, you do not hit a woman, you do not lose your temper unnecessarily, you do not get drunk, you do not act out your frustration inappropriately. A gentleman walks out of a relationship with the lessons he has learnt and his head held high – he is not vindictive and doesn’t keep a grudge; he attends to the emotions of women with care and consideration. He doesn’t act like a tout or make certain decisions that would harm another person. Nature always honours a man of that kind because they are rare species.
Look good:
Exercise. Lose the tummy fat. Wear cologne. Dress appropriately. Keep your breath fresh. Cut your nails. And smile. You can never go wrong looking suave. Like bees to honey, women will run towards you!
Be spiritual:
Have the covering of God upon your life. There’s just something sublime about a man that knows God. It’s in his eyes, his thoughts, they words that come out from his mouth, his attention to details, the way he attends to crises… there’s a glow to his presence; it’s like a magnet that pulls the right people to him. And with God, he has a discerning spirit to make the right choices out of life. Not that he is perfect, but he is made whole – in God.
Be the Head:
A man who can fix things, solve problems, run his life properly and those in his care shows great maturity and he becomes wanted by women! Learn how to be useful. Men want women who can cook and take charge domestically, and women want men who can fix appliances and make lasting decisions that they (women) can put their trust in! No woman wants a boy who isn’t sure where his next meal is coming from or what the nearest future holds. Women want to submit to men who can direct their path towards a course that leads to promise.
My honest opinion
. What else do you think we can add to the list? Let’s hear it!
This is the best article I have ever read
No 6. Visit stephs blog everyday 2 kip u informed…
U hit it gal…u rock!
You ve said it all…
Hey I love those words..keep it up.
detailed
Tnx alot, cos u’ve discovered our thumbscrew…
Then after all dis qualities, hw about d ladies? Hw do i locate d right woman, dat is attracted 2 all dis things u’ve mention, 2avoid gettin close 2 a wast-rel
I’m really confused Stef.. I want to know if is right to date a guy whom am in the same level with in the tertiary institution?? People end up saying it wouldn’t work.. And is this really true?
I tink i’v read sumtin like dis b4,itz al true…i jst want to add dat d guy must b honest2…neva lie 2 ur woman or would b woman..
wow! I love dis, keep it up.
Thx so much steph u actually help me to make some decession about men too may God bless
This is superb! Hope our men will learn from this!
Steph u re blessed….I ve always admired u and thanks for this blog its really a blog i look forward to every day…..I hope the men will see this….God bless you and keep up the Good work.
I love dis article,kip it up sweety!
True d@
I am with you on all counts, sister. My man needs to be a pillar of strength. I can never date a guy who is jobless on purpose, has bad breath, can’t fix a light bulb and has no connection with God.
I loved every bit of the blog, we actually dnt need no 6. Kudos to u
truelly this blog has thought me alot,,,i ll keep them and act upon it,….
good…now we ladies need to hear about “Tips to getting a good man”…**winks**
nice article stephen keep it up cos u really tried in ur written good more of dis 4 our young men tanx alot
I luv diz!!!!
Love your article. But how do I get d right man.
you hit the nail right on the heard thank u.am searching for my future partner and i think i will use your advice.+233249345417 is my number
A man should be honest in all he do
lv u ma model, u got it all
Spendid!!!!
Wao!!! Having all these traits will have to make the chap super perfect. How about having all these traits as a man excluding the belly pouch, how is that then?
THESE ARTICLES ARE WONDERFULLY GOOD I LOVE THIS.
I love dis! 9ice one pls k it up
to be candid, your words re great. you got it all
This is one of the best post I have ever read ! Hope the men (the culprit among them) learn from this !
Hi hi, you said it all Stephanie but I will just add few words to it. A man needs to be tolerant, patient and also have respect, a man who has ego I.e a man who’s full of himself can never get to anywhere in fact no body will want to get close to him. Most especially having the Fear of God is very important because the fear of God is the beginning of WISDOM. A man with a fear of God can never go wrong in everything he do.
THANKS FOR DIS ADVICE,I PRAY OUR MEN CAN LEARN AND STOP BEING A WIFE BEATER FOR ONCE IN THEIR LIFE,
i hate a proud man,i hate a man that dont take care of a woman and also dont ve time for his partner sure man is not a husband material most women avoid them.
I love every bit of the article. Pls let’s talk about the women. How do you know he is the right man for you? What are the qualities of a good woman?
u r simply the best Stef
I lv dis article,bst I av cum across.
Dis ‘ll make us to be on top of our home wit love n care. Thanks more of it.
Not bad i will say. kudos
nice one, keep the gud work rolling Steph!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
u hv said it all gal, good tips
my sister u av said it all
I like dis topic it very nice
i love dis
wow! nice one Steph,i hope dis goes along way in developing our men.Am in love with u and dis article 😉
HIGH 5 to that one dear, you’ve got it all……. Keep it up Swt Steph…… Mur power 2 u
perfect article,i lyke such.
Nice one
Dis is really nice. Do keep it up. More power to ur elbow.
Most sincere article I’ve read in a long time,most especially number 1,money can never be underestimated in marriage/relationships.But most african men hide from this fact………….Step baby,u rock!!!
U re jst to wonderful
Very good article
So on point……. Lovely
LOVE IT !!! A man must also be fun to b with, he should have a sense of humour. Nice article steph
Gud1 stef! D̶̲̥̅̊☺ kip it up, and pls we also need D̶̲̥̅̊ traits of a gud womam. 10x
wow, you nailed it. Thanks Stephnie
nice article…..but what are d qualities of a good woman
Seriously this is nice. Thanks step
You have concluded it all, baby!
U r perfectly right any man wit dis qualities is will ever be every woman’s dream a big tanx 2 stephanie i ray 4 more grace and wisdom upon ur life.
You have made my day, this is best article I’ve ever read.
Kudos steph u re so on point…… Luv diz article
I do Agree with what you have said Steph.I would like to add No.6.A man should be a RISK TAKER!
hey, steph gal, u did hit the nail on the head,have always being a fan of urs on facebook buh ever since the introduction of ur blog,i have been so reluctant or say lazy to take a look at it and now that i’ve done,am so so hooked.keep it up, God bless u.
Of course, the ladies would find this interesting. Goldminers! Not all great men come ready made. We’ve got a bunch of selfish women all around these days. Some of you will wait forever in the quest for Mr perfect!!!
awww, poor you. don’t choke on your hate for women, ok? Get a job then maybe you’ll find out that getting a N10k gift for ur girlfriend every year is not “gold digging”. It is only the poor and frustrated that go on and on and on about “how she wants to eat my money”. How much do u have in ur bank account? eh? N100k or N50k…is dat the money the gold diggers want to eat? Everybody talks about what men want in a woman, for once someone is talking about what women want in a man. Take the lessons and becoms a better man. stop being so bitter cos u can’t get the kind of woman u want.
L̳̿☺Ö̤̣̇☺ː̗̀(=)))ː̖́☺Ö̤̣̇☺L̳̿. I dnt knw is own defination of gold digger self,stop been lazy no matta how love conquers all poverty frustrates love.
this is a perfect article, u have said it all.
stef my model i lov dis tips bt is for men, hw cn ladies kw dia right man?
the 5 tips are ok, but, what are the 5 tips for womem. For if men poessess all this qualities and the women have non of this , what will be the situation then . I still needs your 5 tips to get a good wive as this will balance the equation.
What an interesting tips
I only like a woman that I appreciate a man the way the man is without complain
i love this article!
This is actually a challenge to men
You really do speak the truth! No woman will want 2 dance with a man dat don’t ave dream, ability 2 do things right, dirty, not caring, selfish, every woman likes men who can hold up to dere words. And any man who bit woman is a tout.
u no what u just make correct point there baby keep it up luv that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This is good from good Stephanie well thanks 4 d talk.But is a challenge to all not 4 man alone .
You hv said it all . It’s a challenge to Men.
There are good,men like this, but Good women does not believe and appreciate them
Stephanie I love u so much nd wuld rily lik to knw u personally bt I knw its jus lik asking u to cut ur head off ryt
Steph,you got them all perfect but my advice to all women is dat no one is born perfect.Just get 70% of the tips nd help your man with 30% otherwise u may stick in your fathers apartment waiting for mr perfect
@Chemical. I dont think this is a perfect list oh. This is actually the BASICS – a man has to make some money, smell good, know how to use his hands and brains, and be kind. That’s basics not perfect. A perfect list would read: a house in Banana Island and a mansion in Sychelles. A range Rover for work and a Limo for weekends. $5m reserved in a swiss account. 6-packs abs and a very handsome face (stephanie was even modest enough not to mention looks). My brother, get these basics so u can live well.
@Effiong, even your perfect list isn’t perfect. but the basics are are perfect. One more thing….6pack abs you said. But its surprising how our ladies in naija get spare tyre all over and are looking for 6packs abs. loll
girls don’t look for 6packs as much as guys drowl over big booty. so stop hating. take what u can from this and move on! You obviously don’t have 6packs that is why it is paining u! besides, stephanie was indeed kind enough not to mention looks. that shows women are not high on looks, we just can’t stand a man with alcohol singing in his tummy
Hmmmmm so motivated,U̶̲̥̅̊ rule my world since my secondary school days,ur my role model U̶̲̥̅̊ stand so tall among women. Kudooooozzzz 2 U̶̲̥̅̊.
Am luvin diz!
Can’t get it into my strong head why a guy wil be asking his babe for money…. impossible!! maybe i need counselling.
Thumbs up!!! you have definately ticked all the important boxes. Nice one Stephanie.
wow!! This is the best and amazing truth you can rarely get from anywhere. God bless your wisdom and give you more. Amen!
nne u ve said it all. now dats d ish. well done sis.
✽̤̈̊Ŧɑ̤̥̈̊п̥̥̲̣̣̣kƨ̣̣̣̇̇̇̇✽̤̈̊ for those words Steph men should also Ħª√ę listening ears
Nice. Really nice. But in a country where getting a gud job is difficult. Should men without a gud job refrain 4rm being in a relationship? Or should women avoid such men?
I really love this article it is one of the best article have read so far keep it up
Hi steph, tnx 4 d blog, dis r d things evry guy shuld av or b 2 get d woman of his dreams, uv rily touchd so many lives wiv dis. & 2 d guys, 1 more tin, B URSELF, cos only by dis wuld u get ur own good woman.
nice one eally. independence is a great key a man needs
there is one catch there Stephanie. I can say am correspond but woman are just afraid of me. many of them tell me that openly and at the end they run away or don’t understand me.
You have said it all. Men please If you can keep to the five tips above, you will get the woman of your dream.
wot a luvly work u are doin, Qudus 2 u 4 ur gud work. I will luv 2 see dis kind of gud work 4r u. D Lord bless u 4 the gud work’s and advises.
i completely agree with you!
hi, i want u to know u have tot well but u could get a fast guy wit all those quality n u will be attracted and if his aim is achieved or not u will still have d gratest hrt break. So most times is just God. And gals its also applicable to u too no guy as well need a total dependant too. Tanks DD
yea you are right carry go.
i luv dis article stephanie more grace 2 ur elbow
i luv dis sweety keep it up
i love it keep it up
steph, i really need to settle down very soon but i seem not to be in any relationship,so am seriouly searching all over the world for that lady that wil be the my heartbeat.call me if u that lady +233249345417 or +233266320964.should be independent,loving,caring,humble,Godfearing,faithful,hardworking,beautiful and intelligent.
add me on facebook amenyedzi86@yahoo.com
Thanx steph, you’ve said it all . God will help us men to be head dat we were made to be .
No 6, women want a men that will give them attention, No 7, women want men that will appreciate them tell how beautiful their hair look, how nice their dress is, compliment ur woman. No 8, women need men dt will carry them along in their decisions, No 9, women need men dt will be honest to them, NO 10, women need men dt will love them, just love her becos she is special. Thank u very much.
stef,dats a 9ice one,cudoz
My God dis is d most fabulous article i av ever read dis is gud keep it up.
This is realy wonderful. Kip up d gud work.
I love this.God bless you for everything you have said.
Nice saying and to add to numb.2 ,a gentleman is also a man who keeps his word
you are God send espetialy to me at this moment when i am in a deep shit becous i did not know what to do to attract a woman to myself. Thanks alot. Keep on with the good job.
Woooow i really love dis article n u’ve said all, this is hw guys shld be… steph u rock.
I love dis words of adivce.pls keep it up,i lean on each ur adivce.
stephanie,you are very correct. But most girls just don’t think like you. some of them are empty as basket without garbages but the want to marry good husband and some can’t even treat there spouse rigth. You need to talk to them please.
i love what i read here and am still searching so i will use your advice.my contacts are +233249345417 or +233266320964.hey if you want to know me add me on facebook or call me and you will get to know me.
When men start becoming defensive on a simple basic truth, be careful something is wrong. Steph didn’t say that u must have all de money in de world, but u must have something doing at least to be paying your bills and be in control. How can a man that cannot make a good decision be loved, and by the way do u think that love can fill that ur empty stomach if u are jobless and u are not doing anything about it. Steph u just said the truth not minding whose ox is gored. Kudos!
Stephani, thanks for that. You are very intelligent.
Stef what about going to the market, butik and super market and getin their undies, panties, bra etc, cooking for ur woman, been proud of her any were any time, making promises and fulfiling them, reaching and accomodating ur love’s family members? and a woman turns around and dump u for the reason dat u are not working, no car , no cash, no house, even when they seens to vissible prospect, I am a graduate with a Bachelor Degree in political science, dated her for years and after enguaging her with a gold ring she jilted me for a man with a car, and now i have a job and she is staging a come back what do i do.