I received this touching email from a male reader recently who prefers to remain anonymous. Most times, I get emails from women about relationship issues so it was a bit different and interesting to read a man’s point of view.<\/p>\n
I must sincerely express my gratitude over this enviable innovative idea of yours whereby, helping people resolve issues as concerning relationships and other matters. Please kindly use your God given discretion to help in this issue.<\/p>\n
I’m 25 in a relationship with a lady of 22 but from the look of things, she’s really almost set for marriage and am not yet ready to settle down because of some yet unanswered questions.<\/p>\n
1. Can I really settle down at 27 or 28?
\n2. Am the 5th in a family of 6, how would my family react to my decision of settling down soon?
\n3. Though currently I have a job that I earn about 250k monthly but there’s no job security though am making other investment plans but on her end, she is just about starting her Youth service. Now, considering Nigeria factors, what if the job stops anytime soon what then happens?<\/p>\nRecently, she suggested that I meet her parents for formal acquaintance which I did. I also presented a bottle of wine to her\u00a0Dad. I assume she didn’t know what that means and I did not explain it\u00a0to her.<\/p>\n
Now the issue is, she is totally the kind of a lady I want to be my wife but I have this fear that she might not be patient enough till the time I’m stipulating to settle down which is at the age of 30 and I really don’t want to lose her to anyone.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Five years is a long time for a lady who is absolutely ready for marriage to wait. I have to ask you these\u00a0questions: Have you proposed to her? Does she know you really want to marry her? Have you made her understand your reasons for not wanting to get married now?<\/p>\n
Have it in mind that the way you feel now about her may be different from the way you’d feel in 5 years time so it can be a tough one asking her to wait for you for five years. However, you are both young and have your whole lives ahead of you. I’d suggest you take it one step at a time. Don’t rush things. Get to know each other better; concentrate on building your relationship, your career and impacting each other positively. When you are ready to settle down, you’d be in a better position to address this issue again.<\/p>\n
I sincerely wish you the very best!<\/p>\n
*Your kind and useful advice would go a long way in helping him through this difficult situation so feel free to share it.<\/p>\n
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