For most people, the act of being totally dependent on others for various reasons – emotional, physical, financial… is a situation they don’t like being in. It can be a very frustrating when you can’t make a decision or achieve some goals without needing someone’s support. Almost everyone, man or woman, should have some level of independence and today, I’d like to share some tips on how we can achieve that.
1. DO THINGS BY YOURSELF
One of the ways to stop being dependent on others is to start doing things by yourself. Don’t always accept help from others. If it’s something really hard or really serious, and you’ve tried to fix it yourself and can’t, get help. If it’s something easy and you know you can do it, do it. Don’t rely on others to do the tasks you can do. You don’t even have to start with the big things. You can start small and gradually build up to more risk things, getting out of your comfort zone.
2. START AND FINISH YOUR TASKS
If you’re constantly asking a friend or family member to start or finish something you did, you should do it yourself so you don’t become dependent on them to always do your personal tasks. It’s okay to ask for help sometimes, just not all the time. Plus, you get the glory and satisfaction of doing the task by yourself without any help!
3. LIST YOUR POSITIVE PERSONALITY TRAITS
Many times when a person is dependent upon others, it is because they don’t realize how great they actually are. They may ride on someone else’s confidence since they don’t have any of their own. If this is you, realize you have every right to be confident in who you are. List all of the great things about you. Looking at your positive personality traits written down in black and white can give you confidence.
4. SPEND WISELY
If the situation is about money, think more carefully about how you shop. This will give you the extra money for emergencies, activities, and keep you from asking people to borrow money. But if it’s something that affects your or another persons health, or another serious situation, it’s fine to ask for the money to help you out. Other than that, you should be able to do this with your own money.
5. TAKE SMALL STEPS
If you need to grow more independent a little at a time, that is okay. Take small steps if you need to. With time, you’d realize that you can actually achieve a lot of things on your own. These little steps will make you stronger and eventually you will be strong enough to take the big steps.
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