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BEAUTY DOESN’T EQUAL VALUES

I came across an interview online which made me reflect on the issue discussed, so I decided to share, we are all probably guilty of referring to someone as ugly one time or the other. Hmm, read this

“Tootsie” was one of the most successful movie comedies of the 1980s, but it left a serious impact on its leading man, who dressed as a woman for the role. Dustin Hoffman has revealed he was not only a bad looking woman, but that he also realized one of our culture’s greatest flaws while making the iconic film. In a video interview with the American Film Institute that has gone viral, Hoffman discusses his “Tootsie” role, in which he played Michael Dorsey, a strong-willed but out-of-work actor who lands a role on a soap opera by posing as character actress Dorothy Michaels. In the interview, Hoffman says that to prepare for the film, a team of makeup artists turned Dustin into Dorothy to see if he could look plausible as a woman on screen. With the right makeup and costume, Hoffman could pull off the ruse, but he was disappointed that he wasn’t more attractive.  Really disappointed.
Hoffman asked his team to make him more beautiful, but he was told, “That’s as beautiful as we can get you, Charlie.” Hoffman recalls that when he saw himself as a woman, he started crying and told his wife:

“I said I have to make this picture, and she said, ‘Why?’ And I said, ‘Because I think I am an interesting woman when I look at myself on screen. And I know that if I met myself at a party, I would never talk to that character because she doesn’t fulfill physically the demands that we’re brought up to think women have to have in order to ask them out.’ She says, ‘What are you saying?’ And I said, ‘There’s too many interesting women I have … not had the experience to know in this life because I have been brainwashed.'”

Hoffman says he had an “epiphany” about how women are judged for their appearance — and realized he had been participating in the offensive behavior, ignoring women who weren’t quite beautiful enough…..

Many have missed out on the best people for them, some men have missed out on the best wives and mother material, while some ladies have lost their way searching for the wrong things. I have been in conversations with ladies that said things like “I’d rather be single my whole life than marry a short man”.  A very talented and outspoken presenter material couldn’t get a job because she was not ‘beautiful enough’, the programme director thought that she is not ‘beautiful enough’ for television even if she was the best at her job. Flight attendants have to have a particular look (hot and sexy). Why is our society laying so much emphasis on looks? It turns the so called beautiful ones into arrogant ones because our society has made them look like idols (it takes the grace of God to be drop dead gorgeous and not be proud). The best balance is to be beautiful both inside and outside. Of what use is external beauty if the attitude stinks? And also, everyone is beautiful in their own way, beautiful spirits, beautiful features etc.

Wherever you are, any part of the world, wherever you are reading this, never judge a person by their looks. Because beauty does not equal value.

SL FABZ, Stay Beautiful!

xoxo

SL

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    funmi
    August 13, 2013 at 4:30 am

    Bless you for this write up. I can relate to this. Sometimes I get asked why I hang out with a particular babe just kus she does not “look” beautiful. Lovely write up Steph. You rock!!!

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    chika
    August 13, 2013 at 4:47 am

    So touching and intersting One. I wish all will understand the moral behind dis story. Most times, rejecting someone because of looks has a way of killing the person spirit and making her look and act ugly.

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    Emmanuel Umeh Chizebelum
    August 13, 2013 at 4:54 am

    Wow good talk

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    Victor
    August 13, 2013 at 5:14 am

    Ppl shld learn 2 knw dat we all came same way, we r Gods’ creature. No 1 shld b rejected, we all hv a purpose… Plz allow ppl 2 fulfill their purpose. @ Stephanie a gr8 job u did, keep it up.

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    tomtee
    August 13, 2013 at 5:53 am

    What an eye opener.How true people often judge base on phisical appearance rather than the inner person.I love this piece so much.

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    Mary
    August 13, 2013 at 7:46 am

    Great and insightful one there. There is timely cos we’ve all been guilty of this at some point. I’ll have to reprogramme my attitude. Thanks a lot and God bless you really good. You rock big time, Steph!

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    chidinma
    August 13, 2013 at 8:31 am

    This is such a beautiful article. As I read through it, I wished every1 I know had to read this. I wished this would be a dissussion for every show or presenter on tv and radio. So many hv been a victim of how they look or what they Should look like. Thanks for sharing this.

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    Nnebedum Nkiru bravery
    August 13, 2013 at 9:00 am

    **⌣̊┈̥-̶̯͡»̶̥н̲̣̣̣̥м̣̣̥̇̊м̣̣̥̇̊м̣̣̥̇̊м̣̣̥̇̊м̣̣̥̇̊м̣̣̥̇̊«̶̥ -̶̯͡┈̥⌣̊** , well said Steph. ℓ̊Ƨ̷̜̩̌̋ not fair judging or grading someone from their outer look. What matters in life ℓ̊Ƨ̷̜̩̌̋ the inner man & nothing compares to inner beauty, thou it takes a real man to see that kind of beauty that’s why we experience difficulty today. U’ll find a job u suit in well given to some1 else bc ℓ̊Ƨ̷̜̩̌̋ either U̶̲̥̅̊я not facially pretty, tall, boosty, shappy, sexy, hot etc U̶̲̥̅̊я denied the position even with the best qualification. Goosh I hate that feeling when someone turns u off on what u know u can do even better with some rubbish excuses. ℓ̊Ƨ̷̜̩̌̋ high time the public start putting into consideration “WHO DOES IT BEST not WHO LOOKS BEST”. Good morning Steph D̲̅ε̲̣̣̣ǎ̜̣̍®, keep the good work rolling.

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    glorious
    August 13, 2013 at 9:30 am

    True talk

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    Ezekiel Nwakwue
    August 13, 2013 at 10:58 am

    It is Hollywood or Nollywood that gave us the impression that everything beauty must look like Ini Edo, Mercy Johnson, Stephanie Okereke, Genevieve Nnaji, Omotola, Yvonne Nelson etc. Beauty is more of a character than physical attraction. I absolutely agree with the author of this story.

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    charles
    August 13, 2013 at 3:43 pm

    I think Beauty is been natural,and to be yourself because we are all God,s creation but most at times our parents do mistakes too. If you are Ugly find somebody much better than you to normalise your DNA
    (they Laugh) but it,s true believe meoooo my people joke apart.

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    precious chidinma mbachu
    August 13, 2013 at 5:24 pm

    Like seriously u rock big time. I really wish all n sundry will read thru dis article. Keep up d gud work

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    joe
    August 14, 2013 at 7:09 pm

    this is good, stephanie,seriously, i imagine what kind of woman you are? if you really believe this, as beautiful as you are? your husband is a lucky man.

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    wilsonnelyson
    August 15, 2013 at 8:13 am

    nyce one stephanie.realy luv ds article.a lot f people make mistakes by jst luking at d face nt knwing dat dey ar supposed 2 luk behind d face ie attitude,behaviour nd character.2 be sincere,beauty z nt al dat matters.kip it up @stephanie

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    R Let
    September 25, 2013 at 12:27 pm

    Great! stephanie i wish to find out if there is a possibility of telling u personnal experiences so u paste on ur website so that people help me get solutions to them?

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