Yesterday, we discussed 5 Questions All Single Women Should Ask When Dating and I was encouraged by your responses. It’s good to know that we are taking our relationships more seriously and that we know the importance of asking questions before making assumptions about our partners.
Now, let’s talk to the men today. Here are 5 questions I think every man should ask in a relationship before things get quite serious.
1. What are you expecting from this relationship?
It is crucial to find out what point she is in life. Women are very sensitive about this. Her answer may also be dependent on her age, for instance, the answer you get from a 30 year-old woman would be different from what you get from a 20 year-old. Don’t just assume that she is looking for the same things as you are in a relationship. Ask.
2. Tell me about your family/ best friend.
Women tend to be very attached to their family and friends. It’s best you know the extent of her commitment to them at the beginning. If she has a very close friend that she is attached to, that friend might be the subject of an argument later on if you are not comfortable with it. Also, her relationship with her parents might directly or indirectly affect her relationship with you in future.
3. How do you manage money?
Money matters are very important in every relationship. It could make or mar your relationship or marriage if that’s a plan for both of you. So be sure she can at least manage to keep a budget and not spend all of your money. On the other hand, she may be very prudent and be a better money manager than you so you can let her handle that aspect.
4. What happened in your last relationship?
This question applies to both men and women. Everyone needs to know this. Find out what led to the end of her past relationship and if she admits what her own faults were. This will help you both avoid making the same mistakes again.
5. Can you cook?
I know this is very important to most (not all) Nigerian men. If you are very particular about who cooks your meals, then you should find out if she can conveniently handle preparing you breakfast, lunch and dinner always. If you are OK with having a cook or a maid handling that, then it shouldn’t be an issue. But please don’t say you don’t mind whether she can cook or not now, and then make it an issue later on in the relationship/marriage. It also helps to ask what she loves to cook and if she is willing to learn how to prepare meals you like that she probably cannot handle.
So, what do you think? What other question(s) should a man ask a woman whom he wants to have a serious relationship with?